What advice would you give to your teenage self?
Advice I’d Give My Teenage Self (From the Girl Who Thought She Already Knew Everything)
(A Nihshabd Blog)
Dear Younger Me,
Yes, you — the confident, dramatic, hyper-independent teenager who believed she had life all figured out. The one who acted like Google, therapist, astrologer, and philosopher all at once.
Sit down. Future-you has a few things to say.
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1. Please stop trusting people like they’re walking TED Talks
Not everyone deserves your truth, your softness, your VIP all-access pass.
Observe first.
Then trust.
And always remember this golden rule:
Your intuition is the Wi-Fi — if the signal feels weak, don’t connect.
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2. What people think about you is none of your business
Seriously.
People only notice you for two minutes; the rest of the time they’re busy overthinking their own life.
So stop adjusting yourself like a radio antenna trying to get everyone’s approval.
Be you — loudly, boldly, unapologetically.
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3. Expectations? Keep them light. Like popcorn.
Expect too much and you’ll feel drained.
Expect too little and you’ll feel lonely.
Expect just enough and you’ll feel peaceful.
Balance is everything.
Not everyone will show up for you the way you show up for them — and that’s okay.
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4. Your feelings are valid. Period.
You feel deeply — and that’s not a flaw.
It’s a strength.
You’re emotional, expressive, and dramatic in the most adorable way.
Never stop being that girl who feels things fully.
Just learn who deserves access to those feelings.
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5. Relationships aren’t a syllabus to master
They don’t come with rules, formulas, or perfect strategies.
Choose people who respect your space, honour your voice, and understand your silence.
Choose people who don’t make you shrink to fit in.
And above all — choose you every single time.
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6. Self-love isn’t about spa days — it’s about boundaries
Say “no” without giving a PowerPoint explanation.
Rest without guilt.
Walk away from nonsense.
Protect your peace like it’s your password.
Your future self will thank you for every boundary you set.
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7. Dance. Always.
Dance when you’re excited.
Dance when you’re confused.
Dance when you have no idea what you’re doing.
Because nothing grounds you like movement.
Your body remembers joy even when your mind forgets.
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8. Success is not a race — it’s a rhythm
Your career will grow with your confidence.
Your dreams will expand with your courage.
Stop comparing your timeline to anyone else’s.
Your path is yours — beautifully, chaotically, uniquely yours.
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9. Yes, you think you know everything
And honestly, that confidence is iconic.
But life is funnier, smarter, and more unpredictable than you expect.
Let it surprise you.
Let it teach you.
Let it shift you into someone stronger and softer at the same time.
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The Big Advice:
Choose yourself, without guilt.
Choose the life that excites you.
Choose the work that energises you.
Choose the people who value you.
Choose growth, even when it feels uncomfortable.
And please — trust your own voice more than the noise around you.
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A Final Thank You
To my teenage self:
Thank you.
For believing in magic,
for dreaming without limits,
for trying fearlessly,
for laughing loudly,
for being bold enough to imagine a future no one else could see.
Aaj jo main hu…
it is because of you.
Your courage.
Your clarity.
Your wildness.
Your stubborn belief in yourself.
I’m proud of you — endlessly.
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—Rajeshwari 🧿💕
(Poem ©Rajeshwari.
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Your post is a strong message,an advice for people of all ages.
‘If the signal feels weak, don’t accept’,so true, Rajeshwari
Grateful that it spoke to you in this way Nusrat. ❤️ Our intuition rarely shouts, it quietly guides — we just have to learn to listen. 🌷
Rajeshwari, this hit home in the best way. ‘Your intuition is the Wi-Fi — if the signal feels weak, don’t connect’ — honestly, that line alone is worth framing. So much wisdom wrapped in such beautiful, relatable words. Thank you for this reminder to trust myself more. ❤️🤝🌷
This really made me smile — thank you! 🌸 Learning to trust ourselves is a journey, and I’m so happy these words found their way to you.🤍✨
Beautifully written, Rajeshwari 💕
Honest, powerful, and so relatable — every teenage girl (and even grown women) need to read this. The confidence, the clarity, and the warmth in your words are truly inspiring. 🧿✨
Proud of the woman you’re becoming.
Aww, thank you so much Maha ! 💕
This really means a lot to me. I think we’re all constantly becoming unlearning, relearning, and growing through every phase of life.✨🧿 Still figuring things out… but doing it with honesty this time. 💛🌷
I like the part of gratitude…..we have to be grateful for all that is said & done. Nice post 😉
Absolutely! Gratitude truly changes perspective appreciating every word, every action, makes life so much richer. Thank you for sharing your thoughts 😉💛.
And more important…. It gives hope… 😀
Absolutely! That little spark of hope really does keep us going 😄✨
Your advice is beautifully inspire to all 😊really your a such a great that u always express your emotions with the love and kind words😊❤️❤️
That’s really sweet of you Rudresh … I’m glad my feelings and words connect with you.Thank you for this warmth. ❤️✨
Wellcome 😊✨💙
Choose your self….over and over again.
Absolutely! 🌸 Choosing yourself every single time is the kindest and strongest thing you can do. 💛
A powerful piece, full of truth and imagery! Aaj jo main hu…
it is because of you…says it all. Well penned👌👌👌
Thank you so much KK…
happy to know the line reached you the way it was meant to. 🤍😊
Dear Rajeshwari
Thanks for liking my post but please read the new version of it and decide whether you like it now or not.
Thank you for thinking of me…
I appreciate it. I’ll read the new version. 🤍✨
That’s my privilege
How beautifully said…
thank you for wrapping your words in such gentleness. 🤍✨
Yes, that’s a supreme compliments 🌹