Category: Nihshabd journal

  • ख़ामोशियों को पढ़ने वाले

    ख़ामोशियों को पढ़ने वाले

    For Those Who Read Beyond Words

    पढ़ने वाले

    सब लिख रहे हैं आजकल,
    अल्फ़ाज़ों की कोई कमी नहीं,
    मगर ठहरकर किसी के मन को पढ़ ले,
    ऐसी नज़र अब कहीं नहीं।

    चेहरे पढ़ना आसान नहीं,
    मुस्कानों के भी राज़ होते हैं,
    कई लोग हँसते रहते हैं,
    पर भीतर अनगिनत साज़ होते हैं।

    किताबों के पन्ने पलट लेते हैं,
    लोग उँगलियों की रफ़्तार से,
    मगर दिल के पन्ने पढ़ने का हुनर,
    खो गया है इस संसार से।

    कोई आँखों में छिपी बारिश पढ़े,
    कोई ख़ामोशी का अर्थ समझे,
    कोई “मैं ठीक हूँ” के पीछे भी,
    थोड़ा ठहरकर दर्द समझे।

    शब्द तो अक्सर मिल जाते हैं,
    भाव मगर अनकहे रहते हैं,
    और जो सच में पढ़ना जानते हैं,
    वो कम ही लोगों में रहते हैं।

    कुछ लोग बस पन्ने पलटते हैं,
    कुछ लफ़्ज़ों के बीच ठहर जाते हैं,
    और जो दिल से पढ़ते हैं,
    वे अक्सर वह पा लेते हैं,
    जिसे शब्द कभी कह नहीं पाते।

    आख़िर हर कहानी स्याही से नहीं लिखी जाती,
    कुछ आँखों में बसती है,
    कुछ ख़ामोशियों में छिपी रहती है,
    और कुछ दिलों में उम्रभर धड़कती है।

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    उन सभी लोगों के लिए, जो सिर्फ़ शब्द नहीं पढ़ते, बल्कि उनके पीछे छिपे एहसासों को भी महसूस कर लेते हैं।
    ख़ामोशियों को पढ़ने वाले लोग आज भी दुनिया को थोड़ा और खूबसूरत बना देते हैं।
    🤍✨


    Readers

    Everyone is writing these days,
    Words are everywhere.
    But people who pause long enough
    To truly read a heart are rare.

    Reading faces is not easy,
    Even smiles hold untold stories.
    Many people appear happy outside,
    While carrying silent storms within.

    We turn the pages of books quickly,
    With busy hands and hurried eyes.
    But the art of reading a soul
    Seems to be fading with time.

    Someone notices the rain in your eyes,
    Someone understands your silence.
    Someone looks beyond the words,
    And feels the pain left unspoken.

    Words can often be found,
    But feelings remain hidden away.
    And those who truly understand them
    Are few and far between.

    Some people only turn the pages,
    Some pause between the lines.
    And those who read with their hearts,
    Often find what words cannot define.

    After all, not every story is written in ink.
    Some live in the eyes,
    Some hide in silence,
    And some keep beating softly in the heart forever. 🤍✨

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    For those rare souls who read beyond words and understand what remains unspoken.
    People who can read silence still make the world a gentler, more beautiful place.
    🤍✨

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    शब्दों में… निःशब्द
    In Words… Nihshabd
    — Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari

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    If you enjoy reading emotions between the lines, you may like this too.

    तस्वीरों में कैद यादें

  • तस्वीरों में कैद यादें

    तस्वीरों में कैद यादें

    तस्वीर और आईना

    ज़रूरी था तस्वीर लेना भी,
    आईना तो बस आज दिखाता है,
    कल की हँसी, बीते लम्हे,
    कहाँ कोई आईना बचा पाता है।

    चेहरे की रंगत बदल जाती है,
    मौसम अपना असर दिखाते हैं,
    पर तस्वीरों में कैद वो पल,
    सालों बाद भी मुस्कुराते हैं।

    जो साथ थे, जो दूर हुए,
    जो बातें अधूरी रह गईं,
    एक तस्वीर चुपचाप मगर,
    सब यादें फिर से कह गईं।

    आईना सच तो दिखाता है,
    पर सिर्फ़ इस पल का फ़साना,
    तस्वीरें वक़्त की किताब हैं,
    जिनमें छुपा है पूरा ज़माना।

    इसलिए कुछ लम्हों को रोक लेना,
    वक़्त की रफ़्तार से पहले,
    क्योंकि यादें वक़्त की धूल में कहीं खो जाती हैं,
    मगर तस्वीरें ख़ामोश रहकर भी बहुत कुछ कह जाती हैं। ✨📸

    शब्दों में निःशब्द,
    — राजेश्वरी
    🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari

  • The Garden Within: A Letter to My 20-Year-Old Self

    The Garden Within: A Letter to My 20-Year-Old Self

    What is something you wish you could tell your 20-year-old self?

    Dear 20-year-old me,

    I know you’re chasing butterflies.

    You call them dreams,
    people,
    opportunities,
    love.

    But they’re all butterflies.

    The more desperately you run after them,
    the farther they seem to fly.

    So you run.

    Across years.

    Across heartbreaks.

    Across versions of yourself.

    Convinced that happiness is always
    one step ahead,
    one promotion away,
    one relationship away,
    one miracle away.

    And every time something beautiful leaves,
    you blame your hands for not holding on tightly enough.

    What you don’t know yet
    is that butterflies were never meant to be caught.

    They were meant to be admired.

    One day,
    without announcing itself,
    life will change the question.

    Instead of asking,
    “How do I keep beautiful things from leaving?”

    You’ll start asking,

    “How do I build a beautiful life, even when they do?”

    And that’s when everything changes.

    You’ll plant tiny seeds—
    a quiet morning,
    a good book,
    a laugh that reaches your eyes,
    people who feel like sunlight,
    dreams that belong only to you.

    Slowly,
    almost secretly,
    a garden will begin to grow.

    And then one morning,
    you’ll notice something strange.

    The butterflies are back.

    Not because you chased them.

    Not because you begged them to stay.

    But because beautiful things are naturally drawn
    to places where they can rest.

    Looking back, I realize that every experience—the beautiful ones and the painful ones—helped shape this garden. Some became flowers, some became thorns, but each of them taught me something about who I was becoming. Perhaps growing up is not about creating a perfect life. Perhaps it is about learning to find beauty, meaning, and gratitude in every season we live through.

    🌿 The secret was never learning how to catch butterflies.
 It was learning how to grow a garden worth returning to.

    With love,
    Rajeshwari
    🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari

    If you’d like to linger a little longer, here are a few thoughts that grew from the same garden:

    Winter, My Favorite Season… and My Biggest Enabler 🤭❄️

    Healthy Boundaries in Relationships: A Guide to Lasting Love

  • Healthy Boundaries in Relationships: A Guide to Lasting Love

    Healthy Boundaries in Relationships: A Guide to Lasting Love

    Love Grows Better When It Has Room to Breathe

    There was a time when love was measured by letters.

    Today, it is measured by blue ticks.

    “Seen at 10:32 PM.”

    “No reply till 11:05 PM.”

    “Somewhere between love letters and read receipts, we forgot how to trust.’’

    And suddenly, a relationship that survived years of memories is standing trial because someone took a nap.

    Welcome to modern love.

    Where everyone wants understanding, but nobody wants to understand.

    Where everyone wants respect, but forgets to give it.

    And where “Why didn’t you reply?” has become more common than “How are you?”


    Healthy Boundaries Are Not Walls

    The biggest misunderstanding about boundaries is that people think they are walls.

    They are not.

    Walls keep people out.

    Boundaries teach people how to stay.

    There is a difference.

    A healthy relationship is not two people holding each other so tightly that neither can breathe.

    It is two people holding hands while still allowing each other enough space to remain themselves.

    Because love should never feel like a prison sentence with unlimited calls and mandatory attendance.


    Love Does Not Mean Constant Availability

    Somewhere along the way, we started believing that if someone truly loves us, they should always be available.

    Immediately.

    Instantly.

    Magically.

    As if they were customer support representatives assigned exclusively to our emotional emergencies.

    But people have lives.

    Work.

    Stress.

    Bad days.

    Silence.

    And sometimes they simply need time.

    A delayed reply is not a crime.

    A missed call is not betrayal.

    And needing space is not rejection.

    The strongest relationships are not built on constant communication.

    They are built on consistent trust.

    Love grows where trust lives.

    Suspicion grows where assumptions rent a room.


    Stop Keeping Score

    “You forgot my birthday.”

    “You didn’t call first.”

    “You always do this.”

    “You never do that.”

    And just like that, a relationship becomes a courtroom.

    Both partners become lawyers.

    Nobody wants to be a judge.

    Everybody wants to win.

    But relationships are not competitions.

    There are no trophies for proving who suffered more.

    No medals for remembering every mistake since 2019.

    No championship title for winning an argument while losing the person.

    Sometimes the healthiest thing two people can do is stop counting.

    Because love is not accounting.

    It is understanding.


    The Problem Is Not Conflict

    Most relationships do not break because of problems.

    They break because of the way people handle problems.

    A disagreement is normal.

    Frustration is normal.

    Anger is normal.

    Even misunderstandings are normal.

    What matters is what happens next.

    Do we listen?

    Do we explain?

    Do we try to understand before defending ourselves?

    Or do we immediately start building a blame game strong enough to collapse the entire relationship?

    Because “You hurt me” starts a conversation.

    “You are the problem” starts a war.

    And wars have never been known for producing healthy relationships.


    Respect Is Still Romantic

    We talk so much about chemistry.

    So much about attraction.

    So much about butterflies.

    Nobody talks enough about respect.

    But respect is what remains after the butterflies get tired.

    Respect is answering kindly even when annoyed.

    Respect is not mocking someone’s feelings.

    Respect is allowing differences without turning them into battles.

    Respect is saying,

    “I don’t agree with you, but I still value you.”

    And honestly?

    That may be one of the purest forms of love.


    Let People Be Human

    One of the most beautiful boundaries we can create is allowing people to be imperfect.

    Not every mistake is disrespect.

    Not every silence is abandonment.

    Not every disagreement is a red flag.

    Sometimes people are simply human.

    Tired humans.

    Confused humans.

    Learning humans.

    Healing humans.

    The same way we are.

    The same grace we want for ourselves often becomes the grace we forget to give others.


    The Secret Nobody Talks About

    A healthy relationship is not made of perfect days.

    It is made of repaired days.

    The conversations after misunderstandings.

    The apologies after mistakes.

    The hugs after arguments.

    The decision to stay kind when being right feels easier.

    Anyone can love during sunshine.

    The real magic appears when two people learn how to walk together through storms without turning into the storm themselves.


    Before You Leave

    If there is one thing today’s generation needs to hear, it is this:

    Not every discomfort means the relationship is wrong.

    Not every challenge means it is time to leave.

    And not every conflict means love has disappeared.

    Sometimes growth feels uncomfortable.

    Sometimes understanding takes effort.

    Sometimes relationships require patience.

    Healthy boundaries are not about keeping people at a distance.

    They are about protecting the respect, trust, and individuality that allow love to survive.

    Because in the end, love was never meant to be a game of “You didn’t” and “I did.”

    It was always meant to be two imperfect people saying:

    “Let’s figure this out together.”

    And perhaps that is what real love looks like—

    Not two people who never hurt each other.

    But two people who care enough to learn how not to.

    Like the first sunlight of the morning, relationships do not need to be perfect to be beautiful.

    They simply need warmth, patience, and a little room to grow.

    And when love learns to breathe,

    it learns to stay.

    ♥️

    With love,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rights Reserved

  • The Difference Between Being Needed and Being Loved

    The Difference Between Being Needed and Being Loved

    A Few Lines Before We Begin

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    Sometimes the heart confuses importance with affection,
    and attention with devotion.

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    For when someone constantly reaches for us,
    it is easy to believe we are loved.

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    Yet there is a subtle difference
    one that many discover only after disappointment.

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    A person may need what you give.
    But love begins when they cherish who you are.

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    When Being Needed Feels Like Love

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    Being needed can feel a lot like being loved.

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    At first.
    Your phone lights up every day. They seek your advice, your comfort, your time, your endless supply of patience. You start to think,
    “Wow, I must be special.”
    Then one day, you stop being useful.
    Suddenly, the messages arrive less often than your food delivery notifications.
    Interesting.

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    The Difference Reveals Itself

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    A person who needs you usually remembers you when their world is falling apart.

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    A person who loves you remembers you when something wonderful happens too.

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    One says:
    “I need your help.”
    The other says:
    “I saw this and thought of you.”
    One treats you like customer support.
    The other treats you like a favorite person.

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    Umbrellas and Sunsets

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    Being needed is being the umbrella someone grabs when it rains.

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    Being loved is being invited to watch the sunset when the sky is clear.

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    And no, before anyone panics, there is nothing wrong with being needed. We all need people.

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    But if every conversation starts with a problem and ends when the problem is solved, congratulations.

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    You’ve accidentally subscribed to a premium emotional support package.
    No free trial.
    No cancellation notice.

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    Love Is Wonderfully Unnecessary

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    Love, on the other hand, is delightfully impractical.
    It checks on you when it wants nothing.

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    It remembers your favorite coffee order despite forgetting where the car keys are.

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    It sends you memes with absolutely no strategic objective.
    It stays for the conversation, not just the solution.

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    A Small Test

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    The trick is simple:

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    Ask yourself,
    “If I had nothing to offer today no advice, no help, no emotional rescue mission would they still want to spend time with me?”

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    The answer may sting.
    Or it may remind you of the people who never needed a reason to stay.
    And those people?

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    They’re the ones worth keeping.
    Because being needed makes you useful.
    Being loved makes you irreplaceable.

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    Closing Verse

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    Not every hand that reaches,
    reaches for your heart.

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    Some seek shelter from a storm,
    and leave when skies depart.

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    Yet those who stay in sunshine,
    when there is nothing left to gain,
    are the ones who teach us gently
    the difference between love and need again.

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    A Question For You

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    Perhaps the real question is this:

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    If one day you had nothing left to offer no advice, no support, no solutions would they still value your presence, or was your worth tied only to your usefulness?

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    With love,
    Rajeshwari ♡🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rights Reserved

  • A Blank Canvas and a Blank Page

    A Blank Canvas and a Blank Page

    What are you passionate about?

    Have you ever had one of those days when your mind feels so full that you don’t know what to do with all the thoughts bouncing around inside it?

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    I have.

    When Thoughts Become Art

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    A Blank Canvas and a Blank Page have always been my answer to those moments. When my thoughts become too loud, I either write them down or bring them to life through digital illustration.

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    Sometimes my thoughts become stories.

    Sometimes they become illustrations.

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    And that’s why, if someone asks me what I’m passionate about, my answer is simple: creating.

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    Not because I’m exceptionally talented.

    Not because I’m trying to become famous.

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    But because creating helps me make sense of the noise in my head.

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    A Blank Canvas and a Blank Page

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    For me, a blank page and a blank canvas are surprisingly similar.

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    Most people see emptiness.

    I see possibilities.

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    Of course, there are days when both of them seem determined to test my patience.

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    I stare at the screen.

    The screen stares back.

    Neither of us knows who’s supposed to make the first move.

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    Writers call it writer’s block.

    Artists call it creative block.

    I call it a staring contest that I usually lose.

    But every now and then, something magical happens.

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    A sentence appears.

    A sketch takes shape.

    An idea that existed only in my imagination suddenly becomes real.

    And that feeling never gets old.

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    What I love most about writing and digital illustration isn’t the finished result.

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    It’s the process.

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    The quiet excitement of starting with absolutely nothing and ending up with something that didn’t exist before.

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    A story.

    A character.

    A thought.

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    A little piece of yourself left behind on a page or a canvas.

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    In a world where we’re constantly consuming things, creating something feels special.

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    In fact, I wrote something similar in my post Creative Chaos & Quiet Feelings ✨😄, where I reflected on how creativity often grows in life’s quiet moments.

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    It reminds us that our imagination still matters.

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    So yes, I’m passionate about writing.

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    I’m passionate about digital illustration.

    But more than that, I’m passionate about creating.

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    Because every blank page and every blank canvas holds the same question:

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    What will you bring to life today?

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    And perhaps that’s why I keep returning to both.

    Not because I’m searching for perfection.

    But because I’m always curious about what might happen when imagination is given a place to breathe.

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    What about you? What are you passionate about?

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    Until our thoughts meet again,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rights Reserved

  • Why Do We Miss People Who Never Chose Us?

    Why Do We Miss People Who Never Chose Us?

    The Question That Hurts More Than We Admit

    There is a particular kind of sadness that doesn’t come from losing someone.

    It comes from never truly having them in the first place.

    Strangely, some of the people we miss the most were never ours.

    They never chose us.

    They never stayed.

    They never made us a priority.

    Yet years later, their memory can still appear without warning.

    A song.

    A place.

    A familiar phrase.

    And suddenly, they’re back in our thoughts.

    Why?

    Why do we miss people who never chose us?


    Maybe We Don’t Miss Them

    At least, not entirely.

    Sometimes we miss the version of them we created in our minds.

    The version that would finally understand us.

    The version that would stay.

    The version that would choose us if only the timing had been different.

    However, reality and imagination rarely tell the same story.

    Often, we are grieving a possibility rather than a person.

    A future that never happened.

    A conversation that never took place.

    A love story that existed mostly in our hopes.


    The Human Mind Hates Unfinished Stories

    We like endings.

    We like answers.

    We like certainty.

    Unfortunately, life does not always provide those things.

    Some people leave without explanation.

    Others slowly drift away.

    And a few never arrive at all.

    As a result, the mind keeps revisiting what it cannot resolve.

    We replay conversations.

    We imagine different outcomes.

    We wonder what might have happened if we had said one thing differently.

    Not because the person was perfect.

    But because the story never felt complete.


    Rejection Leaves a Different Kind of Scar

    Being unloved hurts.

    Yet being almost loved can hurt even more.

    When someone never chooses us, we often turn the rejection inward.

    We begin asking difficult questions.

    “What was wrong with me?”

    “Why wasn’t I enough?”

    “What did they see in someone else that they didn’t see in me?”

    Gradually, the loss stops being about them.

    It becomes about our worth.

    And that is where the real pain begins.


    The Truth We Rarely Want to Hear

    Sometimes people do not choose us for reasons that have nothing to do with our value.

    They may be looking for something different.

    They may be emotionally unavailable.

    They may simply be on a different path.

    Their choice is not always a verdict on our worth.

    Yet we often treat it as one.

    We carry their decision far longer than they ever carried us.


    What We Actually Miss

    Perhaps we do not miss the person.

    Perhaps we miss the hope.

    The excitement.

    The possibility.

    The feeling that our story might finally be changing.

    And when that possibility disappears, we mourn it.

    Not because it was real.

    But because it felt real.


    Choosing Yourself

    One of the hardest lessons in life is accepting that not everyone will choose us.

    No matter how kind we are.

    No matter how loyal we are.

    No matter how deeply we care.

    However, there is another lesson hidden inside that pain.

    If someone could not choose us, we can still choose ourselves.

    We can stop measuring our worth through someone else’s decision.

    We can stop treating rejection as proof that we are lacking.

    And we can finally stop waiting for validation from people who never intended to give it.


    A Question For You

    Have you ever found yourself missing someone who never truly chose you?

    If so, what do you think you actually missed?

    The person?

    Or the possibility of what could have been?

    I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

    Because sometimes the stories that hurt us most are the ones that never really began.

    Until the next quiet thought,
    —Rajeshwari
    🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rights Reserved

  • Soft Enough to Care, Strong Enough to Endure

    Soft Enough to Care, Strong Enough to Endure

    If humans had taglines, what would yours be?

    If humans had taglines, what would yours be?

    I thought about this question for a while.

    At first, I considered something clever. Then I thought about choosing something funny. After all, who doesn’t love a tagline that makes people smile?

    However, the more I reflected on it, the more I realized that the words that describe me best are simple:

    “Soft enough to care, strong enough to endure.”

    It may not sound dramatic. Yet it feels true.

    Because if life has taught me anything, it is that softness and strength are not opposites. In fact, they often live side by side.

    The Heart That Cares Too Much

    I have always been someone who cares deeply.

    I care about people.

    I care about words.

    I care about feelings.

    Sometimes I even care about conversations long after everyone else has forgotten them.

    If a friend is hurting, I feel it.

    If someone is struggling, I want to help.

    And if I accidentally send a message that sounds slightly awkward, I can replay it in my mind for days like it deserves an award for Best Dramatic Performance.

    It is both a gift and a challenge.

    On one hand, caring allows us to connect with others. It helps us show kindness, compassion, and understanding.

    On the other hand, caring too much can leave us emotionally exhausted.

    Nevertheless, I would rather have a soft heart than a closed one.

    Softness Is Not Weakness

    For a long time, the world seemed to suggest that strength meant being tough all the time.

    Don’t cry.

    Don’t feel too much.

    Don’t let people see your struggles.

    However, real life has shown me something completely different.

    A flower is soft, yet it survives storms.

    A river is gentle, yet it can carve through stone.

    Likewise, a woman can be compassionate and powerful at the same time.

    She can speak kindly while standing firmly in her truth.

    She can forgive without forgetting her worth.

    She can be gentle without allowing herself to be treated poorly.

    That is not weakness.

    That is strength wearing a softer face.

    My Unexpected Superpowers

    When people imagine strength, they often picture grand achievements.

    Meanwhile, I have discovered a different kind of strength.

    The strength to keep going after disappointment.

    The strength to smile through difficult days.

    The strength to begin again when things do not go as planned.

    And, perhaps most impressively, the strength to survive technology updates without accidentally changing every setting on my phone.

    Honestly, that alone deserves recognition.

    Life has also given me another unusual superpower.

    I can encourage other people while still trying to figure things out myself.

    Many women do this every day.

    They carry responsibilities, support loved ones, solve problems, and keep moving forward even when nobody notices how much they are carrying.

    If that is not magic, I do not know what is.

    When My Wings Feel Heavy

    Of course, there are days when I do not feel strong.

    There are days when my confidence decides to disappear.

    There are days when my patience quietly packs its bags and leaves without warning.

    And there are days when even the smallest challenge feels bigger than it should.

    During those moments, I remind myself of something important.

    Strength is not the absence of struggle.

    Strength is continuing despite the struggle.

    A bird does not wait for perfect weather before using its wings.

    Similarly, we do not need perfect circumstances to keep moving forward.

    Sometimes we simply need courage for one more step.

    Then another.

    And another.

    Love Makes Us Stronger

    One lesson I continue to learn is that love creates resilience.

    Love for family.

    Love for friends.

    Love for our dreams.

    And perhaps most importantly, love for ourselves.

    Because when we learn to value ourselves, we stop measuring our worth through the opinions of others.

    Instead, we begin to trust our own voice.

    As a result, we become stronger without becoming harder.

    We become wiser without becoming colder.

    And we become more confident without losing our kindness.

    That balance is beautiful.

    The Magic of Being Human

    I do not possess magical powers.

    I cannot fly.

    I cannot read minds.

    And unfortunately, I cannot make laundry fold itself.

    However, I do believe there is a little magic in every human heart.

    It appears when we choose kindness over bitterness.

    It appears when we offer hope during difficult times.

    It appears when we continue to believe in better days even after disappointment.

    Most importantly, it appears when we refuse to let life’s challenges change the goodness within us.

    That kind of magic matters.

    My Tagline, My Truth

    So if humans had taglines, mine would be:

    “Soft enough to care, strong enough to endure.”

    Because I believe caring is a strength.

    I believe kindness is powerful.

    And I believe resilience does not always have to roar.

    Sometimes it speaks softly.

    Sometimes it laughs through tears.

    Sometimes it spreads slightly crooked wings and keeps flying anyway.

    That is the kind of strength I admire.

    And perhaps, that is the kind of strength I hope to carry through life.

    Not perfect.

    Not fearless.

    Just soft enough to care, and strong enough to endure. ❤️✨

    With love,
    Rajeshwari 🧿💕

  • How to Build Self-Confidence When You Overthink Everything

    How to Build Self-Confidence When You Overthink Everything

    What’s the Best Way to Build Self-Confidence?

    .

    I’d love to know.

    .

    People ask this question as if there’s a secret formula.

    .

    A few simple steps.

    A daily routine.

    Maybe a self-help book.

    .

    Maybe one of those people online who wake up at 5 a.m., drink green juice, meditate, journal, exercise, and somehow have their entire life figured out before I’ve decided whether I want tea or coffee.

    .

    The advice is usually very straightforward.

    “Believe in yourself.”

    “Just be confident.”

    “Stop overthinking.”

    Which is adorable.

    .

    That’s like telling a cat to stop being suspicious or telling the weather to pick a personality and stick with it.

    .

    However, the strange thing is that I genuinely admire confident people.

    .

    Not the loud ones.

    .

    The genuinely confident ones.

    .

    The people who walk into a situation, do what needs to be done, and somehow don’t spend the next six hours replaying every word they said.

    .

    If something goes wrong, they adjust.

    If something goes right, they move on.

    .

    The Problem Isn’t the Situation

    .

    Meanwhile, some of us can turn a minor inconvenience into a full-scale research project.

    .

    A simple phone call becomes a strategic operation.

    .

    An email sits in drafts while we reread it seventeen times to make sure it doesn’t accidentally start a war.

    .

    An unanswered message becomes a mystery that requires evidence, theories, and possibly a small investigation team.

    .

    In reality, the  actual situation is usually tiny.

    .

    Our imagination just arrives with a larger budget.

    And that’s where confidence and overthinking seem to part ways.

    .

    Confident people look at a small problem and think,

    “I’ll handle it.”

    .

    The rest of us look at the same problem and think,

    “Yes, but let’s first explore all 47 possible disasters.”

    .

    And yet, here’s the funny part.

    Most of those disasters never happen.

    Not even one.

    Yet somehow my brain remains committed to producing sequels.

    .

    Confidence Has Terrible Timing

    .

    Meanwhile, I’ve also noticed that confidence has terrible timing.

    .

    It rarely shows up before the scary thing.

    .

    Instead, it usually arrives afterward.

    After the conversation.

    After the presentation.

    After the difficult decision.

    .

    It strolls in late, carrying a coffee, and says,

    “See? That wasn’t so bad.”

    Oh, now you’re here.

    .

    Very helpful.

    .

    Thank you for your service.

    .

    So what’s the best way to build self-confidence?

    .

    I honestly don’t know.

    .

    However, I do know that life gets a little easier… when we stop treating every uncertain moment like the season finale of a drama series.

    .

    Most things don’t need perfect words.

    Most decisions don’t need perfect certainty.

    Most days don’t require us to be fearless.

    They just require us to show up.

    And maybe that’s enough.

    .

    Maybe confidence isn’t waking up one morning feeling invincible.

    .

    Maybe it’s laughing at your own overthinking, doing the thing anyway, and slowly realizing that reality is usually much kinder than the stories your imagination writes.

    .

    At least that’s what I keep telling myself.

    .

    Usually after I’ve spent three hours worrying about something that turned out to take three minutes. 😄

    .

    Doing the thing anyway,
    — Rajeshwari 🧿💕

  • How Do You Build Loyal Subscribers?

    How Do You Build Loyal Subscribers?

    People ask,

    .

    “How do you build loyal subscribers?”

    .

    As if they’re ingredients

    .

    and I’m missing one crucial spice.

    Add a pinch of consistency,
    a dash of wit,
    stir vigorously,

    and voilà—loyal subscribers.

    .

    If only.

    .

    I don’t think loyal subscribers
    are built at all.

    .

    I think they begin
    with a stranger.

    Someone who finds
    a piece of themselves

    hidden in your words.

    A thought they recognize.

    A feeling they’ve carried.

    A smile they didn’t expect.

    .

    They read a post.

    Then another.

    And that’s where the mystery begins.

    .

    Because the second visit
    is always more interesting
    than the first.

    .

    The first is curiosity.

    The second is choice.

    And somewhere between
    one post and another,

    something small happens.

    .

    A shared laugh.

    A familiar thought.

    A sentence that quietly says,

    “Me too.”

    Without either of you noticing,

    the stranger becomes familiar.

    .

    And isn’t that extraordinary?

    .

    In a world full of endless scrolling,

    someone pauses.

    In a world overflowing with voices,

    someone remembers yours.

    Not because every post is perfect.

    .

    Thank goodness.

    Perfection is exhausting.

    But because, every now and then,

    your words make them feel
    a little less alone.

    Perhaps that’s how
    loyal subscribers are made.

    .

    Not through clever tricks.

    Not through algorithms.

    But through tiny moments
    of human connection.

    One post.

    One smile.

    One “I’ve felt that too”

    at a time.

    .

    So perhaps loyal subscribers
    aren’t followers at all.

    .

    They’re the people
    who turn words into conversations,

    conversations into friendships,

    and an ordinary blog

    into a place that feels
    a little like home.

    .

    And if you’re reading this,

    whether you’ve been here
    for years,

    or only just arrived,

    thank you.

    .

    You may think you’re following a blog.

    .

    But from where I’m sitting,

    you’re helping build
    the reason it exists.

    .

    With love,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

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