What’s one thing you wish you had started doing earlier in life?
Dear WordPress, please don’t make me feel guilty. 😄
You asked me, “What’s one thing you wish you had started doing earlier in life?”
ONE thing? Seriously?
Why are you making me choose just one? 😂
The moment I started thinking about it, a whole list appeared in my head.
Some are things I wish I had started earlier. Some are things I wish I had continued. And some are lessons I wish I had learned much sooner.
So, WordPress… please don’t judge me for not sticking to “one.” 😄
Writing
I wish I had continued writing.
The funny thing is, I don’t even remember exactly when I stopped or why.
Somewhere between responsibilities, family, work and the everyday rush of life, writing quietly disappeared.
Some wishes and hobbies don’t end with a big decision. They simply get lost somewhere between “I’ll do it later” and “I have more important things to do right now.”
And then one day, you realise how long it has been.
Passion
I sometimes wish I had explored fashion design earlier.
Maybe I could have chosen it when I had the opportunity. Maybe I could have given my creative side more space.
But at that time, everyone else’s happiness somehow seemed more important than my own.
Today, I realise that choosing yourself doesn’t mean choosing against everyone else.
There is a balance.
I could have cared for everyone and still made a little room for myself.
Saying No
And then comes the one word I still haven’t mastered:
NO. 😄
Even today, it doesn’t come naturally to me.
I wish I had learned it earlier.
I wish I had understood that saying no doesn’t make you rude, selfish or uncaring.
Sometimes, it simply means:
“I don’t have the energy for this.”
And honestly, that should be enough.
Kindness
I also wish I had understood earlier that too much kindness can be bad for your own health. 😄
Being kind is beautiful.
But constantly adjusting, forgiving, understanding and making excuses for everyone can become exhausting.
There comes a point when you have to ask yourself:
“Who is being kind to me?”
Kindness needs boundaries too.
Trust
And trust…
I wish I had learned much earlier that not everyone deserves the same level of trust.
When we trust someone, we give them a little piece of our faith, our vulnerability and sometimes our heart.
And when someone breaks that trust and walks away as if it meant nothing, it hurts.
Not because trusting was a mistake.
But because you gave something precious to someone who didn’t understand its value.
I still believe in trust.
I just wish I had learned to give it thoughtfully.
Opinions
Other people’s opinions used to matter to me—a lot.
They still matter sometimes. I’m not going to pretend I have suddenly become completely unaffected by what people think.
But I have learned something important:
You can listen without carrying everyone’s opinion with you.
Now I try to listen, smile, think about it… and sometimes simply let it go.
I wish I had learned that skill much earlier.
It would have made life considerably easier. 😄
Balance
Perhaps the biggest thing I wish I had understood earlier is balance.
You can love your family without forgetting yourself.
You can be kind without allowing people to take you for granted.
You can trust people without handing them the keys to your entire heart.
You can care about opinions without allowing them to decide your life.
And you can say yes to others without always saying no to yourself.
Happiness
Maybe this is what I really wish I had started doing earlier:
making space for my own happiness.
Not someday.
Not when everything else is taken care of.
Not when everyone around me is happy.
But along the way.
For writing.
For creativity.
For dreams.
For little joys.
For myself.
Because sometimes, while trying so hard to be everything for everyone, we forget the one person who has been with us through it all.
Ourselves.
And perhaps that is the real answer to this question.
I wish I had started choosing myself a little earlier not instead of everyone else, but along with everyone else. 🤍
And now I’m curious…
Maybe we all have a little list of things we wish we had started earlier.
If you have one sitting quietly in your heart, I’d love to hear it.
No perfect answers, no life lessons required just a little piece of your story. 🦋🤍
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Until The Next Whisper,
—Rajeshwari 🧿💕
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