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  • My Healthy Eating Habits: No Diet, Just Balance

    My Healthy Eating Habits: No Diet, Just Balance

    What are your best healthy eating habits?

    My Best Healthy Eating Habits: Nothing Extreme, Just a Little Balance

    What are your best healthy eating habits?

    If you ask me about my best healthy eating habits, I have to be honest—I am not someone who follows a strict diet, counts every calorie, or survives on salads and green juice. 😄

    I enjoy my food.

    But over the years, I have learned that healthy eating doesn’t necessarily mean giving up everything you love. For me, it is more about being mindful of what I eat, how much I eat, and keeping a little balance in my everyday life.

    These are some simple habits that work for me.

    1. Portion Control for Healthy Eating

    One of my simplest healthy eating habits is watching my portions.

    I don’t believe in completely avoiding foods I enjoy. If I want something tasty, I eat it—but I try not to overeat.

    Sometimes the food is so delicious that the mind says, “Just one more serving.” 😂

    That’s when I try to remind myself that enjoying food doesn’t mean eating until I can’t move.

    Portion control helps me enjoy my favourite foods without making overeating a habit.

    2. Mindful Eating Habits

    I have realised that sometimes we don’t eat because we are hungry. We eat because we are bored, stressed, emotional, or simply because something delicious happens to be sitting in front of us.

    So I try to practise mindful eating.

    I pay attention to whether I am actually hungry and try to stop when I feel comfortably full.

    Of course, I don’t succeed every single time. I’m human, not a food-counting robot. 😄

    But being aware of my eating habits itself makes a difference.

    3. Homemade Food and a Balanced Diet

    I prefer simple, homemade food most of the time.

    It doesn’t have to be fancy or labelled “healthy.” A regular home-cooked meal can be perfectly satisfying.

    I try to include vegetables, fruits and other nutritious foods in my meals while keeping things practical.

    For me, healthy eating habits are not about making every meal Instagram-worthy. Sometimes a simple homemade meal is all you need.

    4. Healthy Eating Without Giving Up Favourite Foods

    I don’t follow the idea that eating healthy means never eating samosas, sweets, desserts or anything fried.

    If I really want something, I would rather enjoy a reasonable portion than spend the entire day thinking about it.

    The key for me is moderation.

    A little indulgence doesn’t ruin a healthy lifestyle. Turning every indulgence into a daily habit probably isn’t very helpful either.

    So yes, I eat my favourite foods.

    I just try not to let the favourite foods take over the entire menu. 😂

    5. Hydration Is Part of My Healthy Routine

    Hydration is another simple part of my healthy lifestyle.

    I try to drink enough water throughout the day instead of waiting until I am extremely thirsty.

    Sometimes we are so busy with our everyday routine that even drinking water gets forgotten.

    Keeping a bottle nearby is a small reminder to stay hydrated.

    And yes, my beloved filter coffee has its own special place in my routine. ☕😄

    6. Exercise Goes Along With Healthy Eating

    For me, healthy eating and exercise go hand in hand.

    I don’t exercise because I want to punish myself for eating something.

    I exercise because I want to stay active, maintain my fitness and avoid unnecessary weight gain.

    Even simple movement and regular exercise can become an important part of a healthy lifestyle.

    I believe consistency matters more than doing something extreme for a few days and then giving up.

    7. I Try Not to Eat Just Because Food Is There

    This one sounds simple, but it can be surprisingly difficult.

    If something is sitting on the dining table, the brain suddenly develops a very convincing argument:

    “It’s already there. We might as well finish it.” 😂

    I try to ask myself whether I am actually hungry before reaching for something.

    This little habit helps me with mindful eating and portion control.

    8. No Complicated Diet Rules

    I don’t have a long list of forbidden foods.

    I don’t want my relationship with food to become stressful.

    For me, healthy eating is about balance rather than perfection.

    Some days I eat better than others. Some days I may eat something purely because I like it.

    And that’s okay.

    A sustainable healthy lifestyle should fit into real life—not make you feel like you are constantly failing at a diet.

    My Approach to Healthy Eating

    So, if I had to sum up my best healthy eating habits, they would be quite simple:

    Eat mindfully.
Control portions.
Stay hydrated.
Eat homemade food when possible.
Enjoy treats in moderation.
Exercise regularly.
And don’t turn food into something to feel guilty about.

    I am not trying to eat perfectly.

    I am simply trying to eat sensibly, stay active and listen to my body.

    For me, that’s what healthy eating habits are really about—balance, moderation and consistency rather than perfection.

    And if I can have my coffee along the way, even better. ☕😄

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

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  • My Little Life Hacks: Simple Things That Make Life Better 

    My Little Life Hacks: Simple Things That Make Life Better 

    What are some life hacks that you practice?

    My Little Life Hacks for a Happier Life

    We all have our little everyday life hacks.

    Some save time, some save effort, and some simply make everyday life a little easier. Over time, I have collected a few simple life hacks of my own—nothing extraordinary, just little habits that make my days a bit easier, lighter and happier.

    Don’t Reply When You’re Angry

    This one has saved me from many unnecessary conversations.

    When I’m angry, I wait.

    Because anger has a strange habit of making us say things our calmer self would happily take back.

    Sometimes I reply later.

    Sometimes I don’t reply at all.

    And honestly, there are times when silence turns out to be the best response.

    Write Things Down

    I write things down.

    Ideas, reminders, things I need to buy, things I suddenly remember before going to sleep.

    Because my brain is wonderful at producing thoughts but not equally wonderful at remembering where it put them. 😂

    So if it matters, I write it down.

    Life Hacks for Everyday Organisation

    I like keeping things where I actually need them.

    Why put something in a “proper place” if that proper place is going to make me search for it later?

    Keeping things within reach is one of those little life hacks that make life easier.

    Of course, this system works beautifully…

    Except when I put my mobile somewhere and immediately forget where I put it. 😂📱

    Then the whole house becomes a crime scene.

    Practical Life Hacks for Important Documents

    Receipts, bills, warranties and important documents—I take photos of them.

    It’s a tiny habit, but it has saved me more than once.

    Because somehow, the one piece of paper you need six months later develops a sudden desire to disappear. 😄

    Life Hacks to Make Cooking Fun

    Cooking doesn’t always have to feel like another chore.

    Sometimes I put on my favourite songs, cook, hum along and dance a little.

    The food gets made, the mood gets better, and for a few minutes, my kitchen feels less like a kitchen and more like my own little music studio. 💃😂

    Whether the choreography deserves an audience is another question altogether.

    Make Time for the Little Things

    A cup of coffee on the balcony.

    Watching the world outside for a few quiet minutes.

    Humming an old favourite song.

    Wearing the good dress. Using the pretty crockery. Taking the picture.

    Why keep everything for some imaginary “perfect day”?

    Sometimes, an ordinary Tuesday deserves a little celebration too. ❤️

    I also try to keep myself engaged in things I enjoy—writing, creating, reading, learning or simply doing something that makes me feel good.

    It keeps my mind occupied and gives unnecessary overthinking a little less space.

    These little life hacks for a happier life don’t cost anything, but they can make an ordinary day feel a little more special.

    The Best Life Hack: Choose Your Peace

    Not every argument needs to be won.

    Not every opinion needs an answer.

    And not everything deserves our energy.

    Choose your peace.

    Because some of my best life hacks aren’t about saving time—

    they’re about saving peace. 🌸

    What About You?

    What are some life hacks that you practice?

    Maybe something practical, something funny, or simply a little habit that makes your day better.

    I’d love to know. ❤️

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © NihshabdThe Silent Stories That Speak to the Soul. All Rights Reserved. 

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    A Different Lens, The Same Life

  • Growing Older: Nobody Warns You About This Part

    Growing Older: Nobody Warns You About This Part

    Nobody Warns You About This Part of Growing Older

    Nobody warns you about this part of growing older.

    Everyone talks about wrinkles, grey hair, reading glasses and knees that suddenly sound like popcorn when you stand up. 😂

    But nobody really tells you about the quiet changes.

    Growing older is not just about adding another year to your age. It is about becoming less interested in explaining yourself to people who have already made up their minds.

    Growing Older Means You Stop Explaining Yourself

    You stop chasing people.

    You stop replying instantly just because someone expects you to.

    And you definitely stop writing those long explanations beginning with, “I just wanted to clarify…”

    Because honestly, who has the energy?

    Your Circle Gets Smaller

    Your circle becomes smaller too. And surprisingly, you don’t panic about it.

    You begin to understand that being surrounded by people doesn’t necessarily mean you are surrounded by friendship. Sometimes one person who genuinely checks on you is worth more than a hundred people who only remember you when they need something.

    You also become strangely protective of your peace.

    A quiet cup of coffee suddenly feels like an event. ☕
    Fresh bedsheets feel luxurious.
    Cancelled plans feel like a personal blessing. 😂

    Growing Older Makes You Enjoy Your Own Company

    And then comes the biggest change—you start enjoying your own company.

    You can sit alone, listen to an old song, write, read, stare out of the window and do absolutely nothing productive.

    And it feels wonderful.

    Perhaps that’s what nobody tells us about growing older.

    You don’t necessarily become lonely.

    You simply become more selective about who gets your time, your energy and your heart.

    You realise that peace is not boring, solitude is not sadness, and saying no doesn’t make you selfish.

    Sometimes, growing older simply means finally choosing yourself without feeling guilty about it.

    And honestly? Maybe that’s the little gift nobody told us about.

    What is one thing growing older has taught you that nobody warned you about? 🦋✨

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © NihshabdThe Silent Stories That Speak to the Soul. All Rights Reserved. 

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    The Day I Stopped Chasing Butterflies 🦋

  • Do You Believe in Karma? What You Sow, So Shall You Reap

    Do You Believe in Karma? What You Sow, So Shall You Reap

    Do you believe in karma?

    Do You Believe in Karma?

    Yes, I believe in karma. 🤍

    I have always believed in a simple thought: what you sow, so shall you reap. Maybe not immediately, and maybe not always in the way we expect, but our actions do have a way of finding their way back to us.

    For me, karma is not about sitting and waiting for someone to get what they deserve. 😄 I don’t have the time or energy to keep checking when someone’s karma is going to arrive!

    I would rather focus on my own actions. Do good when I can. Be kind. Help someone if I’m able to. Speak gently. And most importantly, keep my intentions genuine.

    There is something from the Bhagavad Gita that beautifully explains this:

    “Karmanyevadhikaraste Ma Phaleshu Kadachana.”

    It means: You have the right to perform your actions, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions.

    In simple words, do your karma sincerely without constantly worrying about the result.

    I find this thought very comforting. Sometimes we do everything right and still don’t get the outcome we hoped for. Sometimes we are kind and still get hurt. Sometimes we give our best and life simply says, “Not today.” 😄

    But that doesn’t mean our good actions were wasted.

    I believe the real beauty of karma is in doing the right thing even when nobody is watching, being good without expecting something in return, and choosing kindness even when life gives us reasons not to.

    We cannot control what others do. We cannot control every outcome. But we can always control what we put into the world.

    So yes, I believe in karma. I believe in doing my part, keeping my heart clean, and leaving the rest to God.

    After all, we may not always get what we give immediately, but what we give always becomes a part of the world we live in. 🦋🤍

    What about you? Do you believe in karma? And has life ever given you a little reminder that what goes around, comes around? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

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    © NihshabdThe Silent Stories That Speak to the Soul. All Rights Reserved. 

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    READ MORE : The Kindness We Carry,

    Built by Birth. Edited by Life.

  • How Do You Write What People Actually Want to Read? | Nihshabd

    How Do You Write What People Actually Want to Read? | Nihshabd

    How do you write what people actually want to read?

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    How Do You Write What People Actually Want to Read?

    How do you write what people actually want to read? I often find myself wondering about this. Is it the perfect headline, the right keywords, a trending topic—or something much simpler?

    I think people want to read something that makes them feel seen.

    Something that reminds them of a thought they had while drinking their morning coffee. A situation they laughed about later. A feeling they couldn’t explain. Or a truth they quietly knew but never said out loud.

    That’s what I try to write.

    Not always what is trending. Not always what might get the most views.

    Sometimes I write about ordinary things because ordinary life is where most of us actually live.

    A little irritation. A silly thought. A difficult day. A small happiness. A relationship that makes us laugh. A lesson we learned much later than we should have.

    And honestly, I don’t think every piece has to be profound.

    Sometimes you just want to read something and think,

    “Oh God, I do that too!” 😄

    For me, writing what people want to read is not about trying to guess what everyone wants.

    It is about paying attention.

    Pay attention to people.
    Listen to conversations.
    Notice the little things in everyday life.
    And most importantly, notice those feelings we all have but rarely talk about.

    Because when you write something you genuinely feel, there is a good chance someone, somewhere, will read it and think—

    “She just put my thoughts into words.”

    And maybe, that is what people actually want to read.

    What makes you stop and read something till the end? Is it the topic, the way it is written, or simply how much you can relate to it? Tell me in the comments.

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

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    © NihshabdThe Silent Stories That Speak to the Soul. All Rights Reserved. 

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    READ MORE : How Do You Build Loyal Subscribers?, Women After 40: The Secret Garden Women Discover | Nihshabd

  • The Most Spontaneous Thing I’ve Ever Done: Goa Trip

    The Most Spontaneous Thing I’ve Ever Done: Goa Trip

    What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?

    The Most Spontaneous Thing I’ve Ever Done? A Road Trip to Goa 🚗🌴

    The most spontaneous thing I’ve ever done was probably turning an ordinary holiday in Mumbai into an unexpected road trip to Goa. No hotel booking, no proper luggage, no itinerary—just a new car, a one-year-old baby, some friends, and a completely crazy idea! 😂

    It all started with a very simple plan.

    It was a holiday, and we decided to go to R City Mall with our friends. Our new car had arrived just one week earlier, and my elder son was barely one year old.

    The plan was simple—go to the mall, have some food, maybe party a little, and spend some time together.

    So we left.

    And if you’re going to a mall, what do you really need?

    A purse. Maybe another purse. 😂

    And yourself.

    That was all we had.

    But somewhere between leaving home and crossing one traffic signal, the plan changed completely.

    “Why don’t we just go to Goa?”

    And somehow, that was enough.

    Mumbai to Goa. Let’s go! 😂

    There was no hotel booking. There were no proper clothes. We didn’t have a travel plan either.

    My little one had just a couple of changes of clothes with him. That was it.

    Then, we booked a hotel room while we were on the way…reached Goa, and then went shopping for clothes and whatever else we needed.

    Interestingly, that shopping turned out to be one of the best parts of the trip. 😄

    My Most Spontaneous Trip to Goa ❤️

    I have always loved Goa.

    I love its beautiful Indo-Portuguese houses, colourful walls, old balconies and lovely old-world feel.

    I love the scenery, the bikes, the sunsets and sunrises. There’s just something about Goa that I love.

    But my favourite thing?

    Sitting by the sea and watching the waves.

    I can sit there for hours doing absolutely nothing.

    Just watching the water, listening to the waves, and enjoying the peace.

    This wasn’t my first trip to Goa. I had already visited several times before, but those trips were always properly planned.

    However, this one was different.

    And honestly, our friends deserve a huge part of the credit for this memory. ❤️

    If they hadn’t been with us that day, we might have simply gone to the mall, had our little outing, and come back home.

    Without them, this Goa trip might never have happened, and this beautiful memory might not exist today.

    But some friends are not just friends.

    They become family—and sometimes, even more than family.

    Those are the people with whom you can make a completely crazy plan, say “Let’s go!”, and somehow end up creating a memory you’ll talk about years later.

    This trip was one of those memories.

    There was no schedule and no list of places to visit.

    Just a crazy idea, a new car, good friends, and a road leading to Goa.

    And maybe that’s what I love most about spontaneous trips.

    You don’t know exactly what’s going to happen.

    You just go.

    Sometimes, the trips you never planned become the memories you never forget. ❤️

    Now I want to know about you!

    What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?

    Did you suddenly go somewhere without planning? Take an unplanned road trip? Say yes to an adventure at the last minute?

    Tell me in the comments. I’d love to hear your spontaneous story! 😊

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

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  • How to Make Time for Self-Care When Life Gets Busy

    How to Make Time for Self-Care When Life Gets Busy

    How do you make time for self-care?

    How to Make Time for Self-Care When Life Gets Busy

    How do you make time for self-care when life is already so busy? Between work, family, household responsibilities, appointments, errands, and all those little things that somehow become our responsibility, finding time for ourselves can feel almost impossible.

    We know we need to rest, eat properly, move our bodies, sleep well, and occasionally do something just because we enjoy it. But knowing that and actually making time for self-care are two different things.

    The truth is, most of us are not going to suddenly find a completely free afternoon waiting for us. So instead of waiting for the perfect time, perhaps we need to start using the small pieces of time we already have.

    How to Make Time for Self-Care in 10 or 15 Minutes

    Self-care doesn’t have to mean spending an entire morning at a spa or following a complicated wellness routine.

    Start small.

    Have your morning tea or coffee without checking your phone. Sit in the balcony for ten minutes. Take a short walk. Read a few pages of a book. Listen to music. Stretch your body. Simply sit quietly and do nothing for a while.

    Ten minutes may not sound like much, but ten peaceful minutes can feel surprisingly good when the rest of your day belongs to everyone else.

    Simple Self-Care Ideas Using the Time You Already Have

    Sometimes we don’t need to find extra time. We just need to look at our existing routine differently.

    Waiting for the water to boil? Put on your favourite song.

    Going for a grocery run? Take a few minutes afterward to enjoy a coffee.

    Already taking a walk? Leave your phone in your bag and actually notice what is around you.

    Have fifteen minutes before leaving for an appointment? Read instead of automatically opening social media.

    Self-care can fit into ordinary moments. It doesn’t always need a separate space in your schedule.

    Put yourself on your own calendar

    We schedule meetings, doctor’s appointments, school events and even reminders to pay bills.

    Why not schedule a little time for ourselves?

    It could be just 20 minutes in the evening for reading, writing, walking, drawing, gardening, or simply sitting with a cup of tea.

    And when that time comes, try not to immediately give it away because something else has appeared.

    Your time matters too.

    Learn to say “not today”

    One of the biggest reasons we run out of time is that we keep saying yes.

    Yes to another favour.

    Yes to another commitment.

    Yes to something we could easily have done tomorrow.

    You don’t have to say no to everything. Sometimes saying, “I can’t do it today, but I’ll see if I can do it later,” is enough.

    Protecting a little space in your day isn’t selfish. It is simply recognising that your energy is limited.

    Have a “minimum self-care” day

    Not every day will be productive.

    Some days you will have plenty of energy. Other days, getting through the day itself may feel like an achievement.

    On those days, forget the elaborate routine.

    Drink enough water.

    Eat a proper meal.

    Take a shower.

    Get some fresh air.

    Rest when you need to.

    Go to bed a little earlier.

    Call someone who makes you feel good.

    That’s enough.

    Self-care doesn’t have to look beautiful or Instagram-worthy to be useful.

    Don’t make self-care another task to complete

    This is perhaps the most important part.

    We already have enough things on our to-do lists. We don’t need another list that says:

    ☐ Exercise
    ☐ Meditate
    ☐ Journal
    ☐ Read
    ☐ Drink eight glasses of water
    ☐ Sleep eight hours

    And then feel guilty because we managed only two of them.

    Self-care should support your life, not make you feel like you are failing at one more thing.

    Some days you may want to exercise. Some days you may want to sleep. Some days you may want company. And some days, you may simply want everyone to leave you alone for an hour.

    Listen to that difference.

    So, how do you make time for yourself?

    Don’t wait for life to become completely quiet.

    It probably won’t.

    Instead, start with the little spaces.

    Ten minutes with your coffee.

    Fifteen minutes with a book.

    A short walk.

    A favourite song.

    A quiet room.

    A conversation that makes you laugh.

    A hobby you had forgotten about.

    Or simply doing nothing without feeling guilty about it.

    Because making time for self-care isn’t necessarily about having more time.

    Sometimes it’s about finally accepting that a small part of the time you already have belongs to you too.

    What about you?

    How do you make time for yourself when life gets busy?

    Is it your morning coffee, a walk, reading, writing, music, a hobby—or simply a few quiet minutes alone?

    I’d love to know what your little self-care ritual looks like. Share it in the comments; your simple idea might be exactly what someone else needs today.

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © NihshabdThe Silent Stories That Speak to the Soul. All Rights Reserved. 

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    Stop Treating Yourself Like You’re Temporary

  • What Makes a House Feel Like Home? | Nihshabd

    What Makes a House Feel Like Home? | Nihshabd

    Daily writing prompt
    What’s a place you visited that felt like home?
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    The Place Wasn’t Home… The People Were

    What’s a place you visited that felt like home?

    Honestly? I think I finally know the answer.

    The place wasn’t home. The people were.

    Because, let’s be honest, otherwise a house is just… bricks, walls, furniture and a monthly electricity bill. 😄

    For me, home is where someone is asking,
    “Khaya kya?”
    for the hundredth time.

    Where laughter suddenly bursts out from one room.

    Where someone is yelling from another room,
    “Who took my charger?”

    Where two people are arguing over something completely ridiculous… and five minutes later, they are having tea together as if nothing happened. 😂

    Where children are running around, making noise, fighting over toys, laughing at absolutely nothing, and turning the whole house upside down.

    Where there is teasing, complaining, shouting, sulking, making up, eating together and laughing again.

    Basically, where peace is occasionally missing but love is never out of stock. ❤️

    A perfectly quiet house may look beautiful in pictures, but give me a little noise, a little madness and a few people who drive me crazy but love me anyway.

    That, to me, is home.

    Because it doesn’t really matter whether you are sitting in a tiny apartment, a huge bungalow, a rented house, or somewhere on the other side of the world.

    If there are people who love you, laugh with you, argue with you, irritate you, worry about you and still come back to sit beside you at the end of the day…

    that place becomes home.

    Maybe home isn’t where everything is perfect.

    Maybe home is where you can be completely imperfect—and still know you belong. ❤️

    So tell me—what makes a place feel like home to you: the place itself, the people, or the beautiful chaos they create? 🦋

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © NihshabdThe Silent Stories That Speak to the Soul. All Rights Reserved. 

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  • Things I Wish I Had Started Earlier | Nihshabd

    Things I Wish I Had Started Earlier | Nihshabd

    What’s one thing you wish you had started doing earlier in life?

    Dear WordPress, please don’t make me feel guilty. 😄

    You asked me, “What’s one thing you wish you had started doing earlier in life?”

    ONE thing? Seriously?

    Why are you making me choose just one? 😂

    The moment I started thinking about it, a whole list appeared in my head.

    Some are things I wish I had started earlier. Some are things I wish I had continued. And some are lessons I wish I had learned much sooner.

    So, WordPress… please don’t judge me for not sticking to “one.” 😄

    Writing

    I wish I had continued writing.

    The funny thing is, I don’t even remember exactly when I stopped or why.

    Somewhere between responsibilities, family, work and the everyday rush of life, writing quietly disappeared.

    Some wishes and hobbies don’t end with a big decision. They simply get lost somewhere between “I’ll do it later” and “I have more important things to do right now.”

    And then one day, you realise how long it has been.

    Passion

    I sometimes wish I had explored fashion design earlier.

    Maybe I could have chosen it when I had the opportunity. Maybe I could have given my creative side more space.

    But at that time, everyone else’s happiness somehow seemed more important than my own.

    Today, I realise that choosing yourself doesn’t mean choosing against everyone else.

    There is a balance.

    I could have cared for everyone and still made a little room for myself.

    Saying No

    And then comes the one word I still haven’t mastered:

    NO. 😄

    Even today, it doesn’t come naturally to me.

    I wish I had learned it earlier.

    I wish I had understood that saying no doesn’t make you rude, selfish or uncaring.

    Sometimes, it simply means:

    “I don’t have the energy for this.”

    And honestly, that should be enough.

    Kindness

    I also wish I had understood earlier that too much kindness can be bad for your own health. 😄

    Being kind is beautiful.

    But constantly adjusting, forgiving, understanding and making excuses for everyone can become exhausting.

    There comes a point when you have to ask yourself:

    “Who is being kind to me?”

    Kindness needs boundaries too.

    Trust

    And trust…

    I wish I had learned much earlier that not everyone deserves the same level of trust.

    When we trust someone, we give them a little piece of our faith, our vulnerability and sometimes our heart.

    And when someone breaks that trust and walks away as if it meant nothing, it hurts.

    Not because trusting was a mistake.

    But because you gave something precious to someone who didn’t understand its value.

    I still believe in trust.

    I just wish I had learned to give it thoughtfully.

    Opinions

    Other people’s opinions used to matter to me—a lot.

    They still matter sometimes. I’m not going to pretend I have suddenly become completely unaffected by what people think.

    But I have learned something important:

    You can listen without carrying everyone’s opinion with you.

    Now I try to listen, smile, think about it… and sometimes simply let it go.

    I wish I had learned that skill much earlier.

    It would have made life considerably easier. 😄

    Balance

    Perhaps the biggest thing I wish I had understood earlier is balance.

    You can love your family without forgetting yourself.

    You can be kind without allowing people to take you for granted.

    You can trust people without handing them the keys to your entire heart.

    You can care about opinions without allowing them to decide your life.

    And you can say yes to others without always saying no to yourself.

    Happiness

    Maybe this is what I really wish I had started doing earlier:

    making space for my own happiness.

    Not someday.

    Not when everything else is taken care of.

    Not when everyone around me is happy.

    But along the way.

    For writing.

    For creativity.

    For dreams.

    For little joys.

    For myself.

    Because sometimes, while trying so hard to be everything for everyone, we forget the one person who has been with us through it all.

    Ourselves.

    And perhaps that is the real answer to this question.

    I wish I had started choosing myself a little earlier not instead of everyone else, but along with everyone else. 🤍

    And now I’m curious…

    Maybe we all have a little list of things we wish we had started earlier.

    If you have one sitting quietly in your heart, I’d love to hear it.
    No perfect answers, no life lessons required just a little piece of your story. 🦋🤍

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

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  • The One I’d Ride Through Life With 🐎

    The One I’d Ride Through Life With 🐎

    If you could pick any fictional animal to be your lifelong companion (like a Pokémon or fantasy pet), what would it be?

    If you could pick any fictional animal to be your lifelong companion (like a Pokémon or fantasy pet), what would it be?

    This sounds like a simple question.

    It isn’t.

    Because now I’m supposed to choose ONE fictional animal to spend the rest of my life with?

    That requires serious research. 😂

    I considered a few magical creatures. Then I thought about cute ones. Then loyal ones.

    And suddenly, there he was.

    Maximus from Tangled. 🐴❤️

    Why I’d Choose Maximus as My Fictional Animal Companion

    Yes. Maximus.

    And honestly, what’s not to love?

    That attitude.

    That strength.

    That temper.

    That intense “I know exactly what you’re up to” expression. 😂

    His face deserves a separate award.

    He can communicate an entire paragraph without saying a single word.

    One look from him and you know whether he approves, disapproves, or is currently reconsidering his decision to associate with you.

    I love that he is disciplined, trained, confident and intelligent. He doesn’t blindly follow anyone. He has his own mind, his own principles and a very strong sense of right and wrong.

    And let’s not forget his possessiveness.

    He gives off serious “I’m watching you” energy.

    Honestly, I wouldn’t mind having that kind of companion.

    Especially one who can keep me out of trouble.

    Or at least try. 😂

    But the real reason I’d choose Maximus?

    The ride.

    The Ride I’d Never Forget

    Just imagine sitting proudly on his back, holding the reins, while he takes off at full speed.

    The wind hitting my face.

    My hair flying everywhere.

    That feeling of speed.

    The world rushing past me.

    And me sitting there thinking…

    “Yes. This is exactly how I should be travelling.” 😌🐎💨

    I can almost feel that ride.

    Of course, there is a tiny detail I’m choosing to ignore.

    My carefully done hair?

    Gone.

    My makeup?

    God knows where it will be after that ride. 😂

    But honestly, who cares?

    If I’m sitting on Maximus, feeling the wind in my hair and watching him race ahead with that unstoppable confidence…

    I think the mess will be worth it.

    And then comes the most practical part of this lifelong companionship.

    Petrol prices.

    Diesel prices.

    The ever-increasing cost of travelling.

    With Maximus?

    Zero petrol. Zero diesel. I’ll deal with the hay bill later. 😂

    See? He’s not just handsome, strong and intelligent.

    He’s financially sensible too.  😌

    In this economy, that’s an important quality in a lifelong companion. 😌

    Although, knowing Maximus, I’m pretty sure he’d decide where we’re going, how fast we’re going, and whether I’m allowed to stop for coffee.

    So technically, I wouldn’t be his owner.

    I’d probably just be his very enthusiastic passenger. 😂

    And honestly?

    I’d happily take that ride. 🐎❤️

    Now tell me 🦋…

    If you could pick any fictional animal to be your lifelong companion, which one would you choose? 🐾✨

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

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