If I Could Go Back in Time and Give My Younger Self AdviceâŚ
Advice to my younger self is something I would love to share if I could travel back in time. Iâd take my younger self out for a cup of coffee and give her a few funny but useful life lessons about kindness, setting boundaries, and learning to say no. After all, life is complicated enough without volunteering for extra drama! đ
Then I would share a few life lessons with her.
First, stop being too nice. Being kind is wonderful, but please donât run a free five-star emotional support service for people who wouldnât even offer you a glass of water when youâre thirsty! Not everyone deserves your time, energy, and endless second chances.
Learn to say NO. Itâs a complete sentence, not a government application requiring three signatures and an explanation.
Stop worrying about getting everything right. Life doesnât come with a user manual, and frankly, most of us are figuring it out while pretending we know what weâre doing.
Take chances, learn new things, laugh at your mistakes, and donât postpone happiness until everything is perfect. That day might be stuck in traffic!
And finally, Iâd tell her, âBe kind, but keep your boundaries stronger than your Wi-Fi password. Not everyone deserves access!â
Oh, and sunscreen! Because while wisdom takes time, sun damage is remarkably efficient. đ
Now tell me, if you could travel back in time, what advice would you give your younger self?
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Until The Next Whisper,
âRajeshwari đ§żđ
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Good person qualities arenât just about being kind, telling the truth or helping someone in need. They also include resisting the urge to give a piece of your mind to someone who has been testing your patience since breakfast! đ
Being a good person sounds easy enough. Be kind, help others and behave like a saint. Simple, right? Until someone borrows money and conveniently forgets to return it, or texts âCan I ask you something?â and disappears for three business days! đ
Suddenly, your inner angel and inner devil are holding an emergency meeting, and neither seems willing to leave.
So, what does being a good person really mean? Letâs find out, with a dash of sarcasm and absolutely no moral science examination!
Good Person Qualities Begin with Kindness
Kindness is one of the most important good person qualities. It means treating people with respect, helping when you can and remembering that everyone has feelings.
You donât have to donate a fortune or save the entire planet before breakfast. Sometimes, listening without interrupting, offering a genuine compliment or simply being patient can make someoneâs day better.
And please remember, kindness doesnât require a social media announcement. You can do a good deed without posting a photograph, adding an inspirational caption and waiting for the applause! đ
Honesty Is a Quality of a Good Person
Being honest doesnât mean saying everything that comes into your head and calling it âbrutal honesty.â
There is a difference between telling the truth and using the truth as a weapon. You can be honest without being hurtful, direct without being rude, and truthful without making someone question every life decision theyâve ever made.
A genuinely good person accepts mistakes, apologises when necessary and doesnât blame the entire population for their own bad decisions.
Yes, even grown-ups need character development!
Good Person Qualities Include Self-Respect
Hereâs something important: being good doesnât mean being available to everyone, all the time.
You can say no without writing a five-paragraph explanation. You can protect your peace without feeling guilty. You can forgive someone without giving them another opportunity to repeat the same nonsense.
Being kind doesnât mean becoming a permanent doormat with excellent manners.
If someone mistakes your kindness for weakness, you donât have to prove your goodness by tolerating everything. Boundaries are healthy, and self-respect matters.
Remember, you are a human being, not a 24-hour customer care service for the entire world! đ
A Good Person Doesnât Have to Be Perfect
Nobody gets everything right. We lose our temper, misunderstand people, make silly decisions and sometimes say things we wish we could pull back into our mouths.
The important thing is what we do afterwards.
Do we learn from our mistakes? Do we try to understand another personâs perspective? Can we admit when weâre wrong without preparing a PowerPoint presentation explaining why everyone else is responsible?
Good people arenât perfect people. Theyâre people who are willing to reflect, improve and try again.
And occasionally, they manage to keep a sarcastic reply inside their heads. That deserves a little celebration! đ
Good Person Qualities: Kindness Without People-Pleasing
You donât have to be everyoneâs favourite person to be a good person.
Some people wonât like you even if you bring them tea, remember their birthday and help them move house. Thatâs life. You cannot control everyoneâs opinion, and frankly, trying to do so sounds exhausting.
Be kind, but be wise. Help others, but donât abandon yourself. Respect people, but remember that your own needs matter too.
You can wish someone well from a distance. You can disagree without being disrespectful. And you can choose peace without accepting every invitation to unnecessary drama.
After all, even a box of chocolates has one flavour nobody wants! đŤđ
Your Turn! đŹ
Now, letâs talk!
What qualities do you think make someone a good person? Is it kindness, honesty, loyalty, a good sense of humour or the ability to stay calm when life behaves like an irritating relative at a family gathering?
Have you ever been too nice to someone who took your kindness for granted? Or have you learned that saying ânoâ can sometimes be the kindest thing you do for yourself?
Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments. Iâd love to know what goodness means to you. Your story might make someone smile, think differently or feel a little less alone.
If this post made you laugh, nod in agreement or think of someone who could benefit from a gentle reminder about basic human decency, share it with them. No names necessary. Weâre keeping things kind here! đ
And if you enjoy these little conversations about life, laughter and everything in between, explore more stories and reflections here on Nihshabd.
Because life is complicated enough. We might as well be good to one another while weâre figuring it out. â¤ď¸
Until The Next Whisper,
âRajeshwari đ§żđ
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Whatâs a moment in your life that made you feel truly alive?
The Day I Felt Truly Alive
âWhatâs a moment in your life that made you feel truly alive?â
Oh, this sounds like one of those questions where I am supposed to say something profound.
LikeâŚ
âThe moment I watched the sunrise over the mountains, I felt one with the universe.â đâ¨
Very beautiful.
Very spiritual.
Very Instagram.
Unfortunately, my life has other plans. đ
If you ask me when I felt truly alive, I can think of several possibilities.
That moment when I finally found something I had been searching for at home for three days.
The moment when I checked my bank account after receiving some unexpected money. Suddenly, life had meaning. đ
The moment when I finished a task I had been postponing for weeks and felt like I deserved a national award for it.
Or that magical moment when I got into bed, pulled the blanket over myself and realisedâ
Nobody needs anything from me right now.
Ah.
Nirvana. đ
But jokes apart, there have been a few moments that made me feel genuinely alive.
Not because they were dramatic or movie-worthy, but because they caught me completely unprepared.
A ridiculous conversation that made me laugh until my stomach hurt.
A spontaneous plan that wasnât on my calendar.
A song that suddenly transported me to another version of myself.
A beautiful place that made me stop talking for a few secondsâwhich, honestly, is an achievement.
And sometimes, it has simply been that feeling of doing something I love and suddenly thinking,
âOh⌠this is me.â
No audience. No applause. No checking whether anyone liked it.
Just me, enjoying something for the sheer pleasure of it.
I think thatâs what âfeeling aliveâ really means to me.
It isnât always about doing something extraordinary.
Sometimes itâs laughing at something completely stupid.
Sometimes itâs dancing alone in the kitchen, singing along to a favourite song, and completely forgetting that the rest of the world exists. đśđ
Sometimes itâs making something with your own hands and feeling ridiculously proud of it.
Sometimes itâs sitting quietly with a cup of coffee and thinking, âOkay⌠life isnât so bad after all.â â
And sometimes itâs surviving a particularly chaotic day and reaching bedtime with your dignity still somewhere in the house.
That counts too. đ
Maybe we donât need a breathtaking adventure to feel alive.
Maybe we just need a few moments when we forget to perform, forget to impress, forget to worryâand simply enjoy being ourselves.
Because life is already serious enough.
If feeling alive occasionally involves coffee, laughter, bad decisions and absolutely no productivity⌠I think Iâm doing just fine. đâ
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So, whatâs your truly alive moment?
The silly one. The unexpected one. The one that made you forget the clock for a while.
Tell me in the commentsâI promise, no profound answers required. đâ
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Until The Next Whisper,
âRajeshwari đ§żđ
Š NihshabdThe Silent Stories That Speak to the Soul. All Rights Reserved.
Whatâs the most annoying trope in books or movies?
I have no idea. Iâm probably the least qualified person to answer this.
I donât watch enough movies to develop strong opinions about fictional people making terrible decisions for two hours. đ
Honestly, there are far more interesting things to do.
Like reading. Writing. Thinking. Overthinking. And occasionally having a completely unnecessary argument with myselfâand winning. đ
But if life had its own annoying trope?
Oh, I have a nomination.
Comparison.
That strange habit of looking at someone elseâs life and wondering why ours doesnât look quite as polished.
We tell ourselves not to compare, and then casually open Instagram at 9 a.m. and begin comparing before breakfast. đ
Maybe we need this reminder insteadâ
Some Flowers Just Bloom Differently đ¸
They say, âDonât compare yourself.â
And I agree. Absolutely. Completely.
Until I see someoneâs life looking suspiciously sorted at 9 a.m. on Instagram.
Then my brain goesâ
âInteresting. Should we panic now or after breakfast?â đ
One flower blooms in spring, another takes its sweet time.
One stands tall in the sunshine, another quietly grows where nobody even notices.
Some are roses, some are wildflowers, some are tiny little things growing stubbornly through a crack in the wall.
And then there are people like usâ still figuring out whether we are blooming or simply surviving with good lighting. đ
But perhaps we were never meant to be the same flower.
Maybe your beauty was never supposed to look like mine.
Maybe my journey was never supposed to match yours.
So let her bloom early. Let him reach the finish line first.
Let someone else have the perfect petals, the perfect timing, the perfect life.
You?
Take your time.
Grow crooked if you must. Bloom late. Lose a few petals. Start again.
Because a flower doesn’t stand beside another flower and whisper,
âDamn⌠why am I not blooming like her?â
It simply blooms.
And maybe thatâs the little reminder we all need todayâ
you don’t have to become someone else’s beautiful. You only have to become beautifully, unapologetically, you. đ¸â¤ď¸
Your turnâŚ
Whatâs one thing you wish you would stop comparing yourself with?
Tell me. Maybe weâll discover that none of us are as âbehindâ as we think we are. â¤ď¸
P.S. As for movies⌠Iâll leave the annoying tropes to you people. đ I donât really enjoy watching movies anyway. Thereâs just too much interesting stuff to do!
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Until The Next Whisper,
âRajeshwari đ§żđ
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Whatâs a skill you consider basic, that most people donât actually know how to do?
Loving wholeheartedly⌠and protecting the trust someone places in you.
I know, I know⌠people will say, âThatâs not a skill.â
Oh, I disagree.
Making promises is easy.
Keeping them? Thatâs where the training begins.
Everyone wants unconditional love until theyâre expected to be responsible with it.
Everyone asks to be trusted until trust starts feeling like accountability.
Iâve always believed that if I let someone into my heart, they deserve my complete trust. I donât know how to love in percentages. Itâs either 100% or not at all.
Apparently, thatâs not how everyone operates.
Some people treat trust like a free trialâuse it, enjoy it, and cancel it when itâs inconvenient.
The older I get, the more I realize that the rare skill isnât finding people who can love you.
Itâs finding people who know how to handle someoneâs love without taking it for granted.
Because love isnât fragile.
Trust is.
And once someone places it in your hands, the real skill is knowing what not to do with it.
Thatâs a lesson no school teaches⌠but life certainly does.
Somewhere Along the Way, We Forgot
Maybe thatâs the skill weâre slowly forgetting.
We all crave the same things.
To be loved without conditions.
To be trusted without suspicion.
To be accepted without constantly having to prove our worth.
Yet, when itâs our turn to offer that same love and trust to someone else, we hesitate. We become cautious. We protect ourselves so much that we sometimes forget to protect the person who trusted us.
Somewhere along the way, weâve become experts at expectingâŚ
âŚbut beginners at giving.
We ask to be understood before we learn how to understand.
We ask for loyalty before we become loyal ourselves.
Maybe thatâs why so many relationships today begin with excitement but end with disappointment.
Not because love disappeared.
But because responsibility did.
Love is beautiful.
Trust makes it meaningful.
Responsibility is what keeps both alive.
The World We Could Leave Behind
I often wonder what our world would look like if we taught children that protecting someoneâs trust is just as important as earning it.
That keeping your word matters.
That loyalty isnât old-fashioned.
That kindness isnât weakness.
That another personâs heart is never a place to satisfy your ego.
Imagine an entire generation growing up believing that love isnât about possession, trust isnât about control, and relationships arenât disposable.
Imagine if they carried those values everywhereâwith their families, their friends, strangers, animals, and even the environment they live in.
Wouldnât the world become just a little gentler?
Maybe This Is the Skill Weâre Missing
Maybe thatâs why I still believe loving wholeheartedly is a skill.
Not because everyone can fall in loveâŚ
But because very few know how to honor the love theyâre given.
The saddest part is that we keep searching for better people, while forgetting to become better people ourselves.
Maybe if we learned this one simple skill, we wouldnât just build stronger relationshipsâwe would build a kinder generation.
A generation that understands that love isnât just a feeling, trust isnât just a word, and both are far too precious to be treated as temporary conveniences.
Maybe thatâs the most basic skill of all.
And perhaps thatâs exactly why it has become the rarest.
If I were the kind of person people point at and say, âNow thatâs success,â maybe I would have a long list of tips to share.
But the truth is, my definition of success has changed over the years.
It no longer wears a suit, carries a title, or sits inside a bank balance.
For me, success now looks a little different.
If My Children Are Growing With Love
If I can give my children a safe place to fall,
a reason to dream,
and the confidence to become who they are meant to be,
then I feel successful.
Not because I shaped their future,
but because I stood beside them while they shaped their own.
If My Home Feels Like Peace
Success is not a perfect house.
It is a home where laughter lingers,
where tired hearts find comfort,
and where people feel seen and loved.
If I can create that kind of space,
I consider myself fortunate.
If I Can Be There When Someone Needs Me
A listening ear.
A helping hand.
A shoulder during difficult days.
If my presence makes someoneâs burden a little lighter,
that feels like success too.
If I Am Still Learning
Success is not reaching a final destination.
It is remaining curious,
making mistakes,
learning from them,
and continuing to grow no matter my age.
If I Sleep With A Grateful Heart
At the end of the day,
if I can close my eyes knowing I tried my best,
loved sincerely,
and lived honestly,
then I have already achieved something valuable.
My Definition Of Success
So my top tip for success?
Do not borrow someone elseâs definition.
The world may measure success in numbers,
but your heart measures it differently.
Find what truly matters to you,
nurture it with care,
and protect it from comparison.
Because success is not always found at the top of a mountain.
Sometimes it is quietly waiting at the dinner table,
holding your hand,
calling you Mom,
or smiling back at you from the life you have built.
And for me, that is more than enough. â¤ď¸
A Final Thought
Success is important. Having goals, working hard, and striving to achieve them gives our lives purpose and direction. But in the pursuit of success, we should not forget who we are or neglect the things that truly matter.
It is possible to chase our dreams while still making time for our loved ones, our well-being, and the simple joys of life. Balance is important. A growth mindset is important. But so is gratitude.
Growth helps us move forward, while gratitude reminds us to appreciate how far we have already come. And when success is accompanied by contentment, it becomes even more beautifulâbecause true success is not just about reaching a destination, but also about enjoying the journey.
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May you find your own definition of successâand the courage to live by it.
âRajeshwari đ§żđ
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