Maybe the Community Doesn’t Need Fixing. Maybe I Do.

How would you improve your community?

How would I improve my community?

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By doing something slightly uncomfortable.

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I’d stop assuming I’m always right.

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Not a great personality trait to give up, I know.

But most of our “community issues”

feel less like real problems…

and more like a collection of people

(me included)

who don’t pause long enough to think,

“Maybe it’s not just them.”

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I’ve judged people in seconds.

Misread silences.

And replied “hmm” to things

that probably deserved a little more heart.

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Efficient? Yes.

Helpful? Not really.

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So maybe… I’d start there.

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I’d listen. Properly.

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Not the kind where I nod

while preparing my next sentence

but the slightly uncomfortable kind

where I don’t interrupt,

don’t fix,

don’t turn it into my story.

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Just… listen.

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I’d also retire my habit

of building full personalities for people

based on one moment.

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Because apparently,

people are not trailers.

You don’t get the whole story in 30 seconds.

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And kindness

I’d stop treating it like a rare personality trait

and start using it like a default setting.

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No announcements.

No “look how nice I am” energy.

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Just…

a softer tone,

a delayed reaction,

a message I choose not to send.

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Because sometimes,

what I don’t say

improves things more than what I do.

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And when I don’t understand someone

instead of guessing, decoding, overthinking

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I’d ask.

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Directly. Simply. Humanly.

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Will this fix everything?

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No.

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Someone will still misunderstand.

I’ll still have off days.

And someone will definitely still send

“Good Morning 🌹” at 6 AM.

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But maybe

someone around me

will feel less judged.

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One conversation

will feel a little safer.

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One moment

will feel… lighter.

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And honestly,

if my presence can do that

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then maybe I didn’t fix the whole community…

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but I stopped making it harder to live in.

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And these days,

that itself feels like a pretty good improvement. 🙂

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—Rajeshwari 🧿💕

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Comments

22 responses to “Maybe the Community Doesn’t Need Fixing. Maybe I Do.”

  1. Joey Jones Avatar
    Joey Jones

    Such a good introspective post xx

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much Joey, I truly appreciate your kind words. I’m glad the reflection resonated with you ✨

  2. Aptivi Avatar
    Aptivi

    You’re right! We should reflect on our behavior with people in the community and not judge them too quickly. 👍

    You’ve earned a subscription from me, because you’re writing innovative and beautiful words 💜

    You’ve been selected as a nominee for “The Sunshine Blog Award” for your awesome writings! You can check one of my latest posts for more info. Just letting you know. ☺️

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much for your kind words and support 💜 I truly appreciate it… it means a lot that my writing resonated with you. And thank you for the nomination as well, I’ll definitely take a look at your post ☺️✨

      1. Aptivi Avatar
        Aptivi

        You’re most welcome ☺️

  3. vermavkv Avatar

    That’s such a quietly powerful reflection.

    I really appreciate the honesty in it—the willingness to turn inward instead of pointing outward is what makes it stand out. Lines like “people are not trailers” and the idea of listening without preparing a response feel both simple and deeply insightful.

    There’s a rare kind of humility here, and it gently reminds us that real change in a community often begins with small, personal shifts. Thoughtful, grounded, and genuinely inspiring.

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much Verma ji for this thoughtful reflection ✨I truly appreciate it… that quiet shift inward felt important while writing, and I’m really glad it resonated with you💛✨

  4. Robb Avatar

    Great points! Love the text form and your choice of words!

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much Robb… really glad you liked the words and the way it was expressed ✨💛

  5. Glowith – Glow Every Day, Grow Every Way Avatar

    Beautifully honest and relatable 💛
    Sometimes real change starts exactly like this—with listening, pausing, and choosing kindness quietly.

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much Maha💛✨ So true… sometimes the most meaningful change begins in those quiet, gentle choices ✨

  6. Suryanshi Srivastava Avatar

    This is almost what came to my mind..that I will improve myself first. Really well-penned !

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      That’s such a beautiful thought… starting with ourselves really is where everything begins 🤍✨

  7. A. Rinum Avatar

    This was such a powerful piece. Sometimes just changing one thing about ourselves can change the word. It’s like the ripple effect.

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      So true… just one small shift within us can create such a beautiful ripple outside ✨

  8. Radhika Acharya Avatar

    A different perspective. Change from within rather than out. Loved reading this. 👍

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much Radhika😊 I’m really glad that perspective resonated with you 🤍✨

  9. KK Avatar
    KK

    A truly thought-provoking post! I completely agree, one should focus on what lies within their control. Beautifully written!👌🌼✨

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thanks! 🙏 Your perspective is spot on it’s all about what we can control.🤍✨

  10. Kailash Dhurwe story lover Avatar

    “Your words feel so real and honest.
    It’s not always the community that needs fixing, sometimes it’s our own perspective. Thank you for such a deep thought.”

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much Kailash😊 You’ve said it so beautifully… sometimes it really is about our own perspective. So glad it connected with you 🤍✨

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