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Tag: overthinking

  • What Do I Do to Improve My Sleep? (Spoiler: I Don’t!)

    What Do I Do to Improve My Sleep? (Spoiler: I Don’t!)

    What do you do to improve your sleep?

    Every time someone asks how I improve my sleep, I feel slightly guilty.

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    Because apparently, I’m supposed to have a routine.

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    People brew chamomile tea, meditate, journal, switch off screens an hour before bed, spray lavender on their pillows, play rainforest sounds, and count sheep like they’re preparing for the Olympics of Sleeping.

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    Meanwhile…

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    I simply go to bed.

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    Well… almost.

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    There is one tiny obstacle.

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    My brain.

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    The same brain that has remained suspiciously quiet all day suddenly becomes the CEO of Midnight Meetings Pvt. Ltd.

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    “Remember that awkward thing you said five years ago?”

    “What if tomorrow’s conversation goes terribly wrong?”

    “Shouldn’t we also plan next month’s grocery list… right now?”

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    Seriously?

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    You’ve had sixteen waking hours to bring this up.

    Now you want a board meeting?

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    Sorry.

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    Office hours are over.

    Please send an email.

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    Most nights, I politely decline the invitation.

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    Because every extra minute spent overthinking is a minute stolen from perfectly good sleep.

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    And I refuse to let imaginary problems rob me of real rest.

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    So, touchwood, I’ve never really had to improve my sleep.

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    The moment my head finally reaches the pillow, it’s game over.

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    No lavender.

    No sleep apps.

    No breathing exercises.

    No smart gadgets congratulating me for existing.

    Just one pillow…

    …and lights out.

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    If I have one piece of bedtime advice, it’s this:

    Don’t let your brain schedule meetings after business hours.

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    Nothing productive has ever happened at 2 a.m.
    Except winning imaginary debates against people who have no idea they’re involved.

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    Sleep is free.
    Overthinking is expensive.
    I’ve decided to invest wisely.

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    Because tomorrow deserves a well-rested version of me,

    not the one who stayed awake arguing with imaginary situations.

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    So, if I have one sleep secret, it’s this…

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    I don’t chase sleep anymore. I stop chasing thoughts, switch off the day, and let my pillow do the rest.

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    Until silence finds another story…
    With love,
    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari

  • The Only Thing That Can Silence My Mind… Is Music. 🎶

    The Only Thing That Can Silence My Mind… Is Music. 🎶

    Some storms don’t happen outside. They happen quietly inside us. The only thing that can silence my mind is music.

    What’s the best way to deal with negative thoughts?

    Have you ever noticed something?

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    Negative thoughts don’t arrive with loud footsteps.

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    They quietly slip into your mind… find a comfortable corner… and before you realise it, they’ve started paying emotional rent.

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    You change your place.
    You keep yourself busy.
    You scroll.
    You cook.
    You clean.
    You tell yourself,
    “Bas… enough. I’m not thinking about this anymore.”

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    Your brain smiles.

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    “Okay… but what if we think about it one last time?”

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    One last time…
    Turns into fifty.

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    And that’s the strange thing about negative thoughts.
    The more you chase them away…
    the tighter they hold your heart.
    I’ve realised something over the years.

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    When thoughts reach the mind, logic can sometimes help.

    But when they sink into the heart…

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    logic loses.
    Advice loses.
    Distraction loses.
    Only music knows the way in.

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    A familiar song doesn’t ask what happened.
    It doesn’t judge.
    It doesn’t interrupt.
    It simply wraps itself around your heart until the noise inside begins to soften.

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    Slowly…
    the breathing becomes easier.
    The chest doesn’t feel as heavy.
    The thoughts don’t disappear overnight…
    they simply stop controlling you.
    That’s the magic of music.
    It doesn’t erase pain.

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    It creates a little space between you and your pain.
    Sometimes that tiny space is enough to breathe again.

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    So these days, when my mind starts writing stories that reality never wrote…
    I don’t argue with it anymore.
    I put on my headphones.
    Close my eyes.
    And let the music do what words never could.

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    Because some medicines aren’t found in pharmacies…
    They’re hiding inside a favourite song. ❤️🎧

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    Keep listening… sometimes music says what words cannot.

    With love,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari

  • Nature Is Calm… But My Imagination Is Not 😌🌿🐜

    Nature Is Calm… But My Imagination Is Not 😌🌿🐜

    Have you ever been camping?

    I genuinely love nature 🌿💚
    Like… properly love it.

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    Watching birds 🐦, butterflies 🦋, dragonflies ✨…
    it feels like the world slows down just a little for me.
    Trees 🌳, plants 🌱, flowers 🌸—all those colors 🎨💫
    like nature casually showing off… and I’m not even mad about it 😌

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    The open sky ☁️💙, the soft cricket symphony at night 🎶,
    that first deep breath of fresh air 🌬️—
    honestly, it feels like life resets for a moment 🤍

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    I could sit there for hours…
    doing nothing, thinking nothing, just being 🌿✨

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    But camping?
    No baba no 😭✋

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    Because while I’m busy admiring nature’s beauty…
    my brain is running a parallel storyline:
    “What if a tiny insect chooses your ear as its dream destination?” 🐜👂🫠

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    No warning. No permission. Just… plot twist.

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    And the funny part?
    Nothing like this has ever happened to me.
    Yet my mind is fully prepared for this extremely unnecessary documentary 😭

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    So yes, I love going out, I love nature, I love the whole vibe 🌄💛
    but when it comes to actually sleeping there…

    I suddenly become very aware of my life choices 😌

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    I’ll admire the stars ✨, smile at the silence 🤍, feel the breeze 🌬️…
    maybe even romanticize life for a solid 10 minutes 💫

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    and then quietly decide

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    some things are meant to be loved…
    from a safe distance 🏡🌿

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    because nature is peaceful…
    but my imagination?
    fully wild.

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    A serene nature scene with birds, flowers, and a calm lakeside, featuring the text “Nature is calm… but my imagination is not – Nihshabd.”
    Peace outside, chaos inside 😌

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    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rightsb Reserved

  • Let It Go 2.0: When I Stopped Borrowing Other People’s Opinions

    Let It Go 2.0: When I Stopped Borrowing Other People’s Opinions

    Describe one positive change you have made in your life.

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    Positive change?

    Oh, I basically upgraded my life to “Let It Go 2.0” 😌

    Earlier, if someone said anything, I would hold onto it like a precious package

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    open it, analyze it, overanalyze it…

    and then replay it in my head like a full Netflix series. 🎬

    “What did they mean?”

    “Why did they say it like that?”

    “Was there a hidden message?”

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    Honestly, my mind was doing overtime… without getting paid. 😭

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    But now?

    Now it’s a completely different story.

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    Someone says something, and I just go:

    “Not my circus, not my monkeys.” 🐒✨

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    Because let’s be real

    people will always have something to say.

    You could do everything perfectly, and still someone will go,

    “Hmm… could’ve been better.” 😏

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    So I decided

    they can talk, I’ll stay happy. 😌

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    Now I don’t take things to heart.

    I treat opinions like random notifications

    seen… and ignored. 📲❌

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    That mountain of overthinking I used to carry?

    Yeah, I turned it into a scenic view

    I look at it from a distance… I don’t climb it anymore. 🏔️

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    And the best part?

    I don’t wait for a reason to be happy anymore.

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    Because I finally realized

    peace isn’t a luxury,

    it’s a choice… and I chose it. ✨

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    A smiling woman sitting on a mountain hillside, letting papers fly away in the breeze, symbolizing letting go of thoughts.
    Let go, breathe, and choose peace 

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    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

  • Not What You Do… What You Ignore Makes You Different

    Not What You Do… What You Ignore Makes You Different

    Which aspects do you think makes a person unique?

    I think what makes a person unique is… what they choose to ignore.

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    Not what they love.

    Not what they achieve.

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    But the things they see… understand…

    and still go,

    “yeah… not worth my energy.”

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    Because let’s be honest

    Some people react to everything.

    Tone, timing, punctuation, the way you said “okay.”

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    And some people?

    They read, understand, overthink a little…

    and then just close the chat like,

    “I choose peace… and snacks.”

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    You’ll notice

    Some people can’t ignore a single message

    like it’s their moral responsibility to reply.

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    And some…

    will see the notification,

    process it emotionally, mentally, spiritually…

    and still decide:

    “I’ll get back to this in another lifetime.”

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    And no, ignoring doesn’t mean they don’t care.

    Sometimes it just means

    they’ve unlocked a level where

    not every situation deserves a reaction,

    not every thought deserves a speech,

    and not every “hmm” needs a paragraph reply.

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    Meanwhile

    Some of us will notice everything,

    overthink everything,

    create 3 alternate scenarios…

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    and still reply:

    “haha makes sense” 👍

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    Growth? Maybe.

    Confusion? Also yes.

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    That’s uniqueness.

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    Not what affects you

    but what doesn’t anymore.

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    Not what you say

    but what you consciously decide

    not to turn into a whole episode.

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    And honestly? 😏

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    Some people aren’t unique because of what they go through…

    they’re unique because of what they refuse to entertain.

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    A thoughtful person sitting by a window, quietly looking outside, with the text “Not What You Do… What You Ignore Makes You Different” and “Nihshabd” displayed on the image, reflecting introspection and calm silence.
    What you ignore defines you.

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    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rights Reserved

  • Call It By My Name

    Call It By My Name

    If you could have something named after you, what would it be?

    If something were named after me,

    it wouldn’t be a place or a thing…

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    It would be something mysterious—

    something people would call by my name,

    without really knowing what it means…

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    A feeling you can’t quite put into words,

    yet somehow… it stays with you.

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    A little calm, a little chaos,

    a little love… and a little unnecessary overthinking 😄

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    Something soft, like a familiar fragrance you can’t place,

    warm, like a hug you didn’t know you needed,

    and filled with a quiet kind of love you don’t have to explain.

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    Honest… sometimes beautifully, sometimes a little too much.

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    A little charm, a little magic,

    a little ‘what is wrong with me’ kind of bevkoof energy 🤭

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    And somehow…

    something you keep coming back to,

    even when you don’t fully understand why.

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    Maybe not perfect,

    just a little mysterious…

    but impossible not to love 🤍✨

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    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rights Reserved

  • The Places Where I Accidentally Disappear

    The Places Where I Accidentally Disappear

    What activities do you lose yourself in?

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    People often ask about the places where I accidentally disappear. They expect a neat little hobby list. Reading. Painting. Yoga at sunrise…

    As if it’s some neat little hobby list.

    Like:

    Reading.

    Painting.

    Yoga at sunrise.

    Very aesthetic. Very organised.

    Unfortunately, my mind does not operate like a well-labelled storage box.

    I don’t schedule losing myself.

    I simply… vanish.

    Sometimes it happens while writing.

    A sentence arrives quietly, like a shy guest, and before I know it, I am chasing words through paragraphs as if they are fireflies in the dark. One thought becomes another, then another, and suddenly an hour has passed.

    No warning.

    No permission taken.

    Illustrating does this too.

    When a blank digital canvas stares back at me, I tell myself I will “just add a small detail.”

    A line here.

    A shadow there.

    Next thing I know, I am zoomed in at 400%, arguing with a pixel.

    This pixel, apparently, holds the fate of the entire universe.

    Sometimes I disappear into thoughts instead.

    Not dramatic thoughts. Just the quiet wandering kind.

    The kind where a simple idea grows branches —

    What if…

    Why do we…

    Isn’t it strange that…

    And suddenly my mind is exploring philosophical forests when I was only supposed to be making tea.

    The tea, by the way, is usually cold by the time I return to reality.

    And then there are moments when nothing “productive” is happening at all.

    Just watching the sky change colours.

    Listening to a song too many times.

    Or staring at something ordinary until it quietly becomes beautiful.

    Those moments are dangerous.

    Because that’s when time slips away most politely.

    No drama.

    No announcements.

    Just a gentle disappearance.

    So if you ask me what activities make me lose myself…

    The honest answer is this:

    Anything that feels a little magical, a little curious, and slightly unnecessary to the practical world.

    Writing.

    Illustrating.

    Thinking too much about small things.

    Apparently, my favourite hobby is accidentally leaving reality for a while.

    And honestly?

    I’m not in a hurry to come back.

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    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rights Reserved

  • ✨ Overthinking at 3AM Thoughts✨

    ✨ Overthinking at 3AM Thoughts✨

    (A Nihshabd Blog)

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    3 AM is that strange hour

    when the whole world sleeps,

    but our thoughts…

    they suddenly decide to stay wide awake.

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    The things we avoid all day

    return at night with their volume turned all the way up.

    And we, without a remote,

    just sit there and watch.

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    Sometimes the mind feels like a traffic signal

    all thoughts frozen in one moment,

    and then rushing wildly the very next.

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    At 3 AM,

    we are both brave

    and on the edge.

    It’s the hour that tells the truth

    we spend all day running away from.

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    “Am I doing enough?”

    “Why didn’t I say what I really felt?”

    “Will anyone ever understand me the way I am?”

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    The night doesn’t answer.

    It simply puts a dim spotlight on us

    and suddenly we become the lead actors

    in the story we were avoiding.

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    Sometimes it’s the fear of the future,

    sometimes memories we thought we buried,

    sometimes people,

    sometimes expectations…

    They all line up one by one

    and demand attention.

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    But here’s the quiet truth

    3 AM thoughts aren’t enemies.

    They’re just the feelings

    we don’t have the courage to hear in daylight.

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    3 AM makes us cry a little,

    learn a little,

    feel deeply,

    and sometimes…

    release things we were holding too tightly.

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    So if you’re lying awake at 3 AM, overthinking,

    remember

    you’re not alone.

    This hour silently connects all of us

    in the same invisible conversation.

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    And the morning?

    Morning always makes things better.

    It always does.

    Until then…

    just breathe.

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    —Rajeshwari🧿💕

    (Poem © Rajeshwari.

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