So… What Exactly Am I Doing Differently? 😁

How I Was Raised – a reflection on family values and carrying them forward

What’s something you do completely differently from how you were raised?

Well… I Tried to Find One. 😁

“What’s something you do completely differently from how you were raised?”

I actually had to think about this one.

And then I realised…

Not much. He he.

How I Was Raised Still Shapes Me. ❤️

I’m surprisingly similar to the way I was raised.

The way I was taught to look at people, I still do.

The way I was taught to care, I still care.

The way I was taught to stand by my people, I still do.

My life choices have changed with time, of course. Circumstances change, priorities change, the world changes.

But me?

Not dramatically.

I’m still very much the person they raised.

The only real difference is that, back then, someone else was making decisions for me.

Now I’m the one making decisions for someone else.

Back then, someone was trying to understand me.

Now I’m trying to understand someone else.

Back then, someone was standing beside me.

Now I’m the one standing beside someone.

And if anything, I think I’m trying to give a little more.

A little more love.

A little more understanding.

A little more patience.

A little more freedom to be heard.

Not because I think I was given too little.

Quite the opposite.

I was given so much that perhaps I grew up believing this is what you’re supposed to do for the people you love.

You take care.

You show up.

You understand.

You give more than you received, whenever you can.

Maybe that’s what I was actually taught.

Not to copy every detail of my upbringing, but to carry the good things forward—and add a little of my own.

So I suppose I don’t have a great answer to today’s prompt.

I looked for the thing I do completely differently.

Couldn’t find it.

I’m pretty much continuing the same story.

Just with a different name in the “decision-maker” column now. 😂

And perhaps a slightly bigger heart.

Because if I was loved that much…

why would I stop there? ❤️

He he. I guess some things are not meant to be changed between generations.

They’re meant to be continued.

And now I’m curious about you… ❤️

Is there something from the way you were raised that you’ve carried into the way you live, love, or raise the next generation?

Or perhaps something you consciously chose to do differently?

Tell me—I’d genuinely love to hear your little piece of the story. 😊

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Until The Next Whisper,

—Rajeshwari 🧿💕

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Comments

47 responses to “So… What Exactly Am I Doing Differently? 😁”

  1. samaysakshi Avatar

    Very nice, yes our upbringing plays an important role in what we become, to some extent based what we acquired from our elders and to some extent in reaction to that.

    What can a person say in response to this prompt, this might be more easy for others to explain.

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Yes, absolutely. Sometimes we become who we are by following what we learned, and sometimes by choosing what feels different for us.🤍

  2. Velvet horizon Avatar

    Beautifully written and like the way you wrote as you are same as you were raised and the craving love 🤗

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much! 🤍 I’m glad you connected with it. Some values stay with us as we grow, and the craving for love and connection never really changes. 🤗🦋✨

  3. iamfoolz Avatar
    iamfoolz

    Sometimes the best way to honour how we were raised is to carry the good forward while making our own choices.

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Absolutely. 🤍 We can carry the values we were given while still growing into our own person and making choices that feel right for us. 😊🦋✨

      1. iamfoolz Avatar
        iamfoolz

        You are right.

  4. Glowith – Glow Every Day, Grow Every Way Avatar

    This was such a beautiful way to look at the question, Rajeshwari. ❤️ Sometimes we don’t need to do things differently just for the sake of being different. Carrying the love, care and values we received—and adding a little more of our own—is beautiful in itself. And that last line… “why would I stop there?” says it all. 😊❤️

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much Maha! 🤍 I’m really glad you saw it that way. I feel the same some of the best things we carry from our upbringing are worth keeping, and if we can add a little more love and goodness of our own, why not? 😊🦋😂

  5. winningsetbacks Avatar

    That’s very interesting, to raised grounded is one of good generational gifts. Good begets good so kudos too to your parents, your words spoke volumes. I sincerely enjoyed reading this piece. Thank you 🎉

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much! 🤍 I truly believe the little values we pick up while growing up stay with us in ways we don’t even realise. And yes, I’ll happily pass the kudos on to my parents! 😄 So glad you enjoyed reading it. 🎉🌸✨

  6. Hazel Avatar

    I skip this prompt coz it’s hard for me, too🤭 just stay the good qualities that you have, Rajeshwari! Happy Thursday.

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Haha, I’m glad I’m not the only one who finds this prompt tricky! 🤭 I’ll happily stick to my good qualities then no unnecessary self-analysis today! 😂 Thank you, and happy Thursday to you too! 🌸🦋✨

      1. Hazel Avatar

        My pleasure!

      2. nihshabdblog Avatar

        Aww, thank you Hazel! 🤍 Means a lot. 😊

  7. Aptivi Avatar

    Good morning, Rajeshwari! ☀️

    Loved your answer to this prompt! Keep having your good qualities. 👍 I skipped answering this prompt because it was a hard question.

    Have a wonderful day! ☺️

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Good morning! ☀️ Thank you so much! 🤍 And honestly, this one was difficult for me too. I had to think really hard about it and somehow managed to put it into words. 😄
      Have a wonderful day too! 🦋✨

      1. Aptivi Avatar

        You’re most welcome, Rajeshwari! 💜☀️ That’s very good! 😄
        Thank you so much! ☺️

      2. nihshabdblog Avatar

        Thank you! 😊 So glad you liked it. 🤍🦋

      3. Aptivi Avatar

        You’re welcome! ☺️🍂💜

  8. Vijay Srivastava Avatar

    The deepest form of change is not rejecting what we inherited, but discerning what is worth carrying forward. Values that survive generations are not chains they are living legacies, renewed through our own choices. To receive love and turn it into greater understanding, patience, and presence for the next generation is to let love evolve without losing its roots.

    Some inherit possessions; the fortunate inherit values. And the wisest do not merely preserve them they make them deeper.

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Absolutely Vijay ji 🤍 Sometimes the greatest change is not changing everything, but knowing what deserves to stay. And I love that thought of making inherited values deeper rather than simply repeating them. That feels like the real way love grows across generations. 🌿🦋✨

  9. Sheknowsallblog Avatar

    Rajeshwari, this is such a profoundly honest reflection. 🤍

    When you realized there wasn’t a dramatic difference to share, you actually uncovered something far more meaningful, that the values worth having are worth keeping. There’s a quiet wisdom in that recognition that many miss entirely.

    What struck me most was your observation about the shift from being loved to loving from someone making decisions for you, to you making decisions for someone else. That’s not just a change in roles; it’s a beautiful continuation of what your parents taught you. You’re not rebelling against your upbringing; you’re honoring it by deepening it.

    The line “I was given so much that perhaps I grew up believing this is what you’re supposed to do for the people you love” really captures the essence of generational inheritance. It’s not about doing everything differently to prove independence. It’s about recognizing which threads are golden and which need rewoven.

    And then that closing, “why would I stop there?” it’s both tender and powerful. You’re not just carrying forward; you’re expanding the love, patience, and understanding you received. That’s generational growth at its finest: not rejecting what came before, but honoring it by making it deeper.

    In a world obsessed with breaking cycles, you’ve shown that sometimes the most radical act is choosing to continue the good ones. That takes courage, wisdom, and a secure heart.

    Thank you for this gentle reminder that not all change is progress, and not all continuity is stagnation. Sometimes, the best version of ourselves is a reflection of those who raised us.

    Khadija ❤️

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Khadija, thank you so much for such a thoughtful comment. 🤍 You’ve understood the heart of what I was trying to say so beautifully. I loved the way you described it as carrying the good forward and making it deeper, because that’s exactly how I feel. We don’t always have to change everything just to become our own person. Sometimes, keeping the love, values, and kindness we received and passing a little more of them on is its own kind of growth. 🤍 And yes, that “why would I stop there?” was very much from the heart. 😊🦋✨

      1. Sheknowsallblog Avatar

        🙏🏼😇🤗

  10. mylittlehawk Avatar
    mylittlehawk

    No reason to change anything when you had such good pillars to build on. Now, when you pass it on, you do it in your own way, and as you said, with a bigger heart. I guess it can be called different – as in, ever the better.

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Exactly! 🤍 I love how you put it “ever the better.” I think when you’re lucky enough to have such good values to build on, you don’t really want to change them; you just want to carry them forward in your own way, with a little more of what life has taught you. 😊🦋✨

      1. mylittlehawk Avatar
        mylittlehawk

        Right! It’s such a privilege and a beautiful thing to have and be able to do. There’s nothing better than giving back the love we receive! 💙

  11. iamfoolz Avatar
    iamfoolz

    Some things are worth carrying forward, especially when they come from a place of love.

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      So true. 🤍 When something is rooted in love, there’s no need to change it just for the sake of being different. We can simply carry it forward and make it our own. 😊🦋✨

      1. iamfoolz Avatar
        iamfoolz

        Beautifully put it. 👍

      2. nihshabdblog Avatar

        Thank you so much 🦋✨

  12. thetravelingtaylorsofficial Avatar
    thetravelingtaylorsofficial

    Answering the prompt with “not much, actually” is braver than inventing a difference. The line about the only real change being whose name sits in the decision-maker column is so accurate it stung a bit – that is the whole shift of becoming a parent in one sentence. Carrying it forward and adding a little more patience counts as doing it differently, I think.

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you! 🤍 I’m so glad that part connected with you. I think becoming a parent really does change that one little thing you suddenly realise the decisions you once received are now yours to make. And yes, adding a little more patience and doing things in our own way is probably more than enough “different” for me. 😊🦋✨

  13. Nusrat Khan Avatar

    हम वही हे जो थे बरसू पहले
    बस थोड़े खुद मुख्तार हो गए
    देख कर दुनिया और दुनिया दारी
    हम भी थोड़े होशियार हो गये .

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      बहुत खूबसूरत कहा है नुसरत। 🤍 इंसान शायद भीतर से वही रहता है, बस वक्त और दुनिया उसे थोड़ा समझदार और खुदमुख्तार बना देते हैं। 😊🦋✨

  14. Hug in a bite Avatar

    When you are raised in a good way it is worth passing it over to others and maybe giving more like you said. Loved your answer as always 😄

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much! 😄🤍 I feel the same when you’ve received so much love and goodness, it feels natural to pass it on and maybe add a little more along the way. 😊🦋✨

  15. charles131 Avatar

    Being Needed Is Not the Same as Being Loved

    Shame on you for making me feel important only when you needed something from me.

    You made me feel valued when you needed my support.

    You made me feel special when you needed my time.

    You made me believe my presence mattered.

    But slowly, I realised something painful.

    You did not miss me.

    You missed what I provided.

    There is a difference between someone needing your help and someone valuing your heart.

    Real love does not only appear during difficult moments.

    It stays during ordinary ones too.

    It checks on you when there is nothing to gain.

    It chooses you even when you are not solving a problem.

    Never confuse being useful with being loved.

    Because you deserve someone who wants you, not just what you can do for them.

    #RealTalk #Relationship #SelfWorth #Healing #LifeLessons

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      👍🏻👍🏻

  16. Jamie Avatar
    Jamie

    Very attractive content 👌

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you so much Jamie 🦋✨

      1. Jamie Avatar
        Jamie

        Appreciated

  17. Voice Of Rohingya | Anowar Sadak Avatar

    Beautifully said. ❤️ The best parts of how we were raised are often the ones we carry forward with love and care.

    1. nihshabdblog Avatar

      Thank you, Anowar! 🤍 I feel the same. Some things become such a natural part of us that we don’t even realize how much of what we received is quietly being passed on. 🦋✨

      1. Voice Of Rohingya | Anowar Sadak Avatar

        You’re most welcome 🤗

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