Girls Who Are Not Ready Yet
.
There are girls
who smile very politely
when someone says,
.
“So… when are you getting married?”
.
They nod.
They sip their tea.
They even smile a little.
.
Because apparently
this question is asked
with the same casual curiosity
as
“Did you eat?”
or
“How’s the weather?”
.
Inside, though,
a small voice quietly whispers —
.
“Not yet.”
.
Not rebellion.
Not attitude.
Not feminism gone wild.
Just a girl
trying to figure out
how her own life works first.
.
You see,
she has only recently learned
the small magic
of standing on her own feet.
.
Paying her own bills.
Buying her own coffee.
Making tiny decisions
without a family meeting.
.
It may look ordinary to you.
.
But to her
it feels like
discovering gravity.
.
Then someone arrives
with a very reassuring smile:
.
“Why do you need a job?
Our house has everything.”
.
And she almost laughs.
.
Because that tiny salary
you think is so unnecessary
is actually
.
her safety blanket,
her quiet confidence,
her proof
that she exists
outside someone else’s surname..
.
But try explaining that.
.
So she simply says,
.
“Hmm… let’s see.”.
.
Which, translated from
Girl Language,
roughly means —
.
Please give me a little time to breathe.
.
She is not against love.
She is not allergic to marriage.
.
She just doesn’t want
her entire life
packed neatly
into someone else’s expectations
like luggage on a conveyor belt.
.
Because building a life
takes years.
.
Confidence,
independence,
small freedoms.
.
These things grow slowly —
like plants.
.
And no plant survives
if you pull it out
just when it begins to bloom..
.
So yes,
some people call her stubborn.
.
Some say
she is “too independent.”.
.
And a few whisper
the most dramatic line of all —
.
“She might miss her chance.”
.
But the truth is far less dramatic.
.
She is just a girl
who is not ready yet.
.
And sometimes
“not yet”
is not fear..
.
It is wisdom.
.
Because the right life
the right love
and the right timing.
.
should never feel
like a deadline..
.
—Rajeshwari 🧿💕
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Rajeshwari Ji good evening 🙏
Your article is truly sensitive and thought-provoking. You have expressed, in very simple yet powerful words, a feeling that many girls quietly carry within themselves today. The line “Not yet is wisdom” touched the heart in particular. In your writing, one can clearly see the beauty of self-respect, independence, and the maturity of understanding one’s own life. Truly, every life has the right to bloom in its own time.
At the moment, I am on a pilgrimage to Mathura – Vrindavan, so I am not able to respond to messages and comments immediately. I will certainly read everything more carefully and respond in detail once I return.
Heartfelt congratulations to you for such a beautiful and meaningful piece.
With regards,
-Vijay Srivastava
Good evening Vijay ji. Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful words. I’m truly glad the piece resonated with you, and it means a lot that the line “Not yet is wisdom” touched your heart.
Wishing you a peaceful and blessed pilgrimage in Mathura–Vrindavan. May your journey be filled with grace and beautiful darshan. And if you happen to stand before Bhagwan ji, please offer a small pranam on my behalf as well.🙏🏻🙏🏻
I feal like someone wrote me and my feelings down❤️such a beautiful way to write down the feelings of this journey of womanhood🧿💙
No one could have done ot better than you❤️
agreed with Isha we can relate
I’m really glad it resonated with you both. Sometimes we think our feelings are so personal, and then we realize many women are quietly carrying the same thoughts. Thank you for reading.
This is so kind of you to say. Reading this honestly makes my heart very happy.
If these words felt like your own feelings, then the poem has truly found its purpose.
Thank you for connecting with it so beautifully and for sending so much love 💙
you’re most welcome, dear. Honestly, when I first joined WordPress, I didn’t really use the Reader. I thought I was the only one. But day by day, I started connecting with so many writers through comments. It feels like we are on such a beautiful platform where we can express our thoughts freely—without competition, jealousy, or show-off. Only writing, only sharing our world, without any judgment.
That’s so beautifully said 🤍
I feel the same—what started as just writing slowly turned into real connections. It’s comforting to know there’s a space where we can simply share, without pressure or comparison.
Beautifully described by you
Thank you so much Deepika 🤍. It means a lot to know that these words resonated with you. I’m really glad you connected with it. ♡✨
Finally someone said it!
If this article were translated into many languages, it could empower a lot of women.
Thanks for sharing ♡
This truly means a lot to me. I don’t think I’ve ever received appreciation quite like this before.🤍✨
If these words can resonate with even a few women somewhere in the world, that alone makes writing it worthwhile.✨
Thank you so much for reading and for your kindness ♡✨
It’s already worthwhile 🤗♡
That’s so kind of you to say. Messages like this truly make writing feel worthwhile. Thank you for your warmth. 🤗
Keep writing 💪
We’ll keep supporting 🤗
Salary doesn’t only give a safety blanket, but also an identity. Sentiments have very well been expressed, especially the metaphor –
And no plant survives
if you pull it out
just when it begins to bloom..
Thank you so much KK… this truly means a lot 🤍
I’m really glad the metaphor resonated with you—some thoughts just come from a very real place.
Your words beautifully captured the intent behind it. Grateful you connected with it. ✨
So true Rajeshwari. Not every girl is ready at the same time. Sometimes we just need space to grow and understand ourselves first.
Absolutely Maha… 🤍
There’s no fixed timeline for becoming who we’re meant to be. Sometimes, all we need is a little space, a little patience—and we bloom in our own beautiful way. 🌸✨
I believe it reaches everyone who’s mentioned by you through the perfect quotations. We as girls are not trying to escape from marriage. It’s painful if birds are even kept in a golden cage, they are meant to measure the boundless skies.
Please keep on writing Rajeshwari Di. People love it. You’ve all the support from us. It’s a beautiful way to connect. It touches directly.
Thank you so much dear 🤍
You’ve said it so beautifully…it’s not about running away, it’s just about wanting the sky we belong to. Your words really stayed with me. And your support means a lot… truly. ✨
Yes Right this platform is very good for share your thoughts and journey..
Absolutely Deepika✨… it’s one of those spaces where thoughts don’t feel judged, they feel understood. And somewhere along the way, your journey starts resonating with others too. That’s the beauty of it.🤍✨
I get what you’re trying to say — and here’s how I’d put it:
Like rice, some things just aren’t ready when they’re uncooked. There’s nothing wrong with the rice; it’s good in every state. But you can’t force it to be what it isn’t yet. You wait, you let the heat do its work, and when it’s ready, it offers itself as a gift.
Personally, I like my rice al dente. But even then, it’s the rice — not me — that decides when it’s done.
That’s actually a really nice way to explain it 😄
I like the idea that it’s not about something being “not ready” in a negative way… it just has its own timing.
And yes… forcing it never really works, whether it’s rice or real life.
Also, al dente rice is a bold choice, I have to say 😄