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  • Things I Wish I Had Started Earlier | Nihshabd

    Things I Wish I Had Started Earlier | Nihshabd

    What’s one thing you wish you had started doing earlier in life?

    Dear WordPress, please don’t make me feel guilty. 😄

    You asked me, “What’s one thing you wish you had started doing earlier in life?”

    ONE thing? Seriously?

    Why are you making me choose just one? 😂

    The moment I started thinking about it, a whole list appeared in my head.

    Some are things I wish I had started earlier. Some are things I wish I had continued. And some are lessons I wish I had learned much sooner.

    So, WordPress… please don’t judge me for not sticking to “one.” 😄

    Writing

    I wish I had continued writing.

    The funny thing is, I don’t even remember exactly when I stopped or why.

    Somewhere between responsibilities, family, work and the everyday rush of life, writing quietly disappeared.

    Some wishes and hobbies don’t end with a big decision. They simply get lost somewhere between “I’ll do it later” and “I have more important things to do right now.”

    And then one day, you realise how long it has been.

    Passion

    I sometimes wish I had explored fashion design earlier.

    Maybe I could have chosen it when I had the opportunity. Maybe I could have given my creative side more space.

    But at that time, everyone else’s happiness somehow seemed more important than my own.

    Today, I realise that choosing yourself doesn’t mean choosing against everyone else.

    There is a balance.

    I could have cared for everyone and still made a little room for myself.

    Saying No

    And then comes the one word I still haven’t mastered:

    NO. 😄

    Even today, it doesn’t come naturally to me.

    I wish I had learned it earlier.

    I wish I had understood that saying no doesn’t make you rude, selfish or uncaring.

    Sometimes, it simply means:

    “I don’t have the energy for this.”

    And honestly, that should be enough.

    Kindness

    I also wish I had understood earlier that too much kindness can be bad for your own health. 😄

    Being kind is beautiful.

    But constantly adjusting, forgiving, understanding and making excuses for everyone can become exhausting.

    There comes a point when you have to ask yourself:

    “Who is being kind to me?”

    Kindness needs boundaries too.

    Trust

    And trust…

    I wish I had learned much earlier that not everyone deserves the same level of trust.

    When we trust someone, we give them a little piece of our faith, our vulnerability and sometimes our heart.

    And when someone breaks that trust and walks away as if it meant nothing, it hurts.

    Not because trusting was a mistake.

    But because you gave something precious to someone who didn’t understand its value.

    I still believe in trust.

    I just wish I had learned to give it thoughtfully.

    Opinions

    Other people’s opinions used to matter to me—a lot.

    They still matter sometimes. I’m not going to pretend I have suddenly become completely unaffected by what people think.

    But I have learned something important:

    You can listen without carrying everyone’s opinion with you.

    Now I try to listen, smile, think about it… and sometimes simply let it go.

    I wish I had learned that skill much earlier.

    It would have made life considerably easier. 😄

    Balance

    Perhaps the biggest thing I wish I had understood earlier is balance.

    You can love your family without forgetting yourself.

    You can be kind without allowing people to take you for granted.

    You can trust people without handing them the keys to your entire heart.

    You can care about opinions without allowing them to decide your life.

    And you can say yes to others without always saying no to yourself.

    Happiness

    Maybe this is what I really wish I had started doing earlier:

    making space for my own happiness.

    Not someday.

    Not when everything else is taken care of.

    Not when everyone around me is happy.

    But along the way.

    For writing.

    For creativity.

    For dreams.

    For little joys.

    For myself.

    Because sometimes, while trying so hard to be everything for everyone, we forget the one person who has been with us through it all.

    Ourselves.

    And perhaps that is the real answer to this question.

    I wish I had started choosing myself a little earlier not instead of everyone else, but along with everyone else. 🤍

    And now I’m curious…

    Maybe we all have a little list of things we wish we had started earlier.

    If you have one sitting quietly in your heart, I’d love to hear it.
    No perfect answers, no life lessons required just a little piece of your story. 🦋🤍

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

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  • Life Is in the Little Things | Nihshabd

    Life Is in the Little Things | Nihshabd

    The Older I Get, the More I Realize…

    Somewhere along the way, we all started believing that happiness is always loading…

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    When I get that job.
    When I buy that house.
    When life finally “settles down.”

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    But here’s the plot twist.

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    The moments that stay with us forever are almost never the expensive ones.

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    They’re the ones nobody planned.

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    That cup of chai that somehow turned into a three-hour conversation.

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    Laughing so hard your stomach hurt and you couldn’t even explain what was funny.

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    A random drive where Google Maps had no idea what was happening.

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    Singing every lyric wrong with people who didn’t care.

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    Getting a text that simply said,
    “Reached home?”

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    Or a hug that quietly meant,
    “I’ve got you.”

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    Funny, isn’t it?

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    At the time, those moments felt completely ordinary.

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    No perfect lighting.
    No filters.
    No viral reel.

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    Just people being present.

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    And somehow…

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    those became the memories we keep replaying in our heads years later.

    Maybe happiness was never hiding in bigger paychecks or bigger dreams.

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    Maybe it was sitting across the table with a cup of chai.

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    Maybe it was that friend who stayed a little longer.

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    Maybe it was a normal Tuesday that nobody thought to photograph.

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    The older I get, the more I realize…

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    Life doesn’t become meaningful because of the big moments.

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    It becomes meaningful because of hundreds of tiny ones we almost ignored.

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    If life gave you just five minutes to relive one memory… no edits, no rewind, no second chance…

    which one would you choose? ❤️

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    Until the next whisper…
    —Rajeshwari     🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari

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  • The Happiness Department | Happiness Myths and Everyday Joy

    The Happiness Department | Happiness Myths and Everyday Joy

    What’s a common misconception people have about happiness

    I used to think happiness was very professional.

    You know…

    The kind that arrives only after reviewing your application.

    “Thank you for your interest in Happiness.”

    “Unfortunately, you do not meet the requirements at this time.”

    Please try again after:

    ☐ Losing weight

    ☐ Making more money

    ☐ Becoming successful

    ☐ Fixing your life

    ☐ Getting your children to answer texts on time

    ☐ Learning how to fold fitted sheets

    So naturally,

    I spent years trying to qualify.

    I made plans.

    Backup plans.

    Emergency backup plans.

    And a few dramatic speeches

    for situations that never actually happened.

    Meanwhile,

    happiness was behaving very irresponsibly.

    It showed up at odd times.

    While eating the last piece of cake.

    While finding money in an old handbag.

    While cancelling plans and staying home.

    Especially while cancelling plans and staying home.

    The strange thing is,

    nobody tells you this.

    They tell you happiness lives in big moments.

    The promotion.

    The dream house.

    The perfect vacation.

    The life-changing achievement.

    And yes,

    those things are wonderful.

    But somehow,

    the happiness from buying a new refrigerator

    lasts about three business days.

    Then you’re standing in the kitchen thinking,

    “Well… now what?”

    Maybe that’s the biggest misconception.

    We think happiness is a permanent resident.

    Turns out,

    it’s more like that friend who drops by unexpectedly,

    makes you laugh,

    steals a biscuit,

    refuses to stay long,

    and leaves before you can ask for a selfie.

    It visits during ridiculous moments.

    A perfectly made cup of tea.

    A joke that shouldn’t be funny but is.

    A song you haven’t heard in years.

    Fresh bedsheets.

    Finding out tomorrow is a holiday.

    Finding out someone else made dinner.

    Now THAT is happiness.

    These days,

    I don’t chase it quite so much.

    Mostly because I’m tired.

    Also because happiness seems to enjoy hide-and-seek.

    The harder I look,

    the faster it runs.

    The moment I stop searching,

    there it is—

    sitting quietly beside me,

    hiding in a good laugh,

    a familiar voice,

    an unexpected free afternoon,

    or a cup of tea that somehow tastes exactly right.

    And perhaps that’s the biggest misconception of all.

    We think happiness is waiting for us somewhere in the future,

    while it keeps waving at us from the present.

    So tell me, dear friends…

    What is one small thing that made you smile recently?

    Not the big achievements.

    Not the life-changing moments.

    Just something simple.

    A phone call from someone you love.

    A favourite song playing unexpectedly.

    A warm cup of tea on a quiet afternoon.

    Holding hands with the person who makes your heart purr.

    Listening to the giggles, laughter, and mischief of children filling the house with life.

    Or a furry little companion who greets you as though you’ve returned from a year-long expedition, when in reality you only stepped out for ten minutes.

    Maybe happiness isn’t hiding in extraordinary moments after all.

    Maybe it’s tucked inside these little everyday moments that ask for nothing except to be noticed.

    I’d love to hear about one of yours. 💛✨

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    Leaving you with a little happiness today,
    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕🦋

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    While writing this, I was reminded of another thought that has stayed with me for a long time: we often spend so much energy searching for meaning that we forget to notice the magic already sitting beside us.

    The Garden Within: A Letter to My 20-Year-Old Self

    A Little Bit of Magic Called Life

    For Every Woman Who Forgot Her Spark✨