Tag: family

  • Same Answer. Still. 😂

    Same Answer. Still. 😂

    If the salary was the same, what job would you be doing right now and why?

    If the salary was the same, what job would you be doing right now and why?

    Apparently, I have already answered this question once—many years ago.

    And guess what?

    Same answer. 😂

    I’d still be a homemaker.

    Not because I had some grand plan of becoming one. Life just… happened. I was working, I was happy working, and then I had children.

    And somehow, the idea of leaving them at home and going to work never sat quite right with me.

    Even with a nanny at home, there was this strange little voice in my head saying, “But you’re their mother. Shouldn’t you be here?”

    I tried negotiating with that voice.

    It won. Every. Single. Time. 😄

    Maybe I wasn’t as strong as I thought I should be. Maybe I should have been more practical, more ambitious, more “I can have it all!”

    Well… apparently I couldn’t.

    Or perhaps I simply didn’t want to.

    Because while I sometimes wonder what my career would look like today, I have absolutely no regrets about the life I chose.

    I was happy when I worked.

    I am ridiculously, embarrassingly, wonderfully happy being a homemaker now.

    So, if the salary was the same?

    I’d still choose this job.

    Although I’d definitely ask for a salary revision this time.

    The cost of living has gone up. The children have grown up. And my unpaid overtime is getting ridiculous. 😂

    What about you? If money wasn’t a factor, would you still choose the life you’re living—or would you finally follow that random dream you’ve been secretly entertaining? 😄

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    Until The Next Whisper,

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

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    © NihshabdThe Silent Stories That Speak to the Soul. All Rights Reserved.

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    READ MORE : Work-Life Balance, Homemaker Edition

  • Adult? I Never Became One — And I’m Not Complaining

    Adult? I Never Became One — And I’m Not Complaining

    What’s a moment when you realized you were officially an adult?

    Apparently, I Never Became an Adult

    What’s a moment when you realized you were officially an adult?

    Honestly?

    I am still waiting for that moment.

    I have looked around. I have checked my age. I have done all the things supposedly responsible adults do.

    And yet, somehow, nobody around me seems to have received the memo that I am an adult.

    My mother still gives me advice.

    My brother still gives me advice.

    My husband gives me advice.

    My in-laws give me advice.

    And now, to add insult to adulthood, my children give me advice too.

    They have clearly watched everyone else doing it and thought, “Why should we miss out on this family tradition?”

    Sometimes I genuinely feel my children think I am younger than them.

    The way they advise me, explain things to me, remind me of things, and occasionally look at me as if I am the one who needs supervision… I have started wondering if I am actually the youngest member of this family.

    At this point, I am beginning to suspect that adulthood is a scam.

    The funniest part?

    Nobody even wants my advice.

    I can give it, of course. I am fully qualified. I have experience. I have wisdom. I have made mistakes. I have learned lessons.

    But apparently, my family has unanimously decided that my advice is an optional feature nobody needs to activate.

    Meanwhile, their advice arrives freely.

    Without invitation.

    Without subscription.

    And sometimes before I have even finished explaining the problem.

    “Be careful.”

    “Think about it.”

    “Don’t do that.”

    “Why don’t you…”

    “Are you sure?”

    “Take this.”

    “Have you eaten?”

    “Don’t worry, I’ll handle it.”

    Excuse me?

    I am an adult!

    At least, technically.

    But then I have to admit something.

    I am actually very lucky.

    Because behind every piece of unwanted advice is someone who cares enough to worry about me.

    Behind every “Don’t do that” is someone who doesn’t want me to get hurt.

    Behind every “Take care” is someone quietly keeping an eye on my happiness.

    And the most embarrassing part?

    I often get things before I even ask for them.

    Sometimes before I even realise I need them.

    So perhaps this isn’t about them not accepting that I have grown up.

    Perhaps they simply haven’t stopped loving me like the girl they have always wanted to protect.

    And maybe they don’t really want me to become completely independent of their love.

    Which brings me to my very important conclusion:

    I have decided not to become an adult.

    Why should I?

    I have people who carry my worries, listen to my nonsense, tolerate my tantrums, give me unsolicited advice, and somehow still love me after all of it.

    My adulthood can wait.

    My teenage privileges are clearly still active.

    And frankly, I am enjoying the benefits.

    So, if you ask me when I realised I was officially an adult…

    I didn’t.

    And I don’t think I ever will.

    Because apparently, the people who love me most are doing an excellent job of making sure I never have to.

    And you know what?

    I am perfectly okay with that.

    P.S.

    This is based on a real-life situation.

    And yes, I am still being pampered.

    At this point, adulthood has knocked on my door several times.

    My family simply refuses to let me answer it. 😄

    So, when did you realise you were officially an adult? 😄

    Was it a serious life decision, paying your first bill, giving advice nobody asked for… or are you, like me, still waiting for adulthood to arrive? 😂

    Tell me your moment! 🤍

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    Until the next whisper,
    —Rajeshwari 
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    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari

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    READ MORE : A Mother’s Kind of Weather❤️ 

  • The Ones I Go To

    The Ones I Go To

    List the people you admire and look to for advice…

    I don’t usually share this.

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    People might think I’m joking.
    Or worse… not serious about life.

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    But whenever I’m stuck
    really stuck
    overthinking something that didn’t even need this much attention…

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    I go to someone.

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    Not older.
    Not more experienced.
    Definitely not more “qualified.”

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    But somehow…
    far more sorted.

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    It’s…

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    my kids.

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    Yes. Those kids.

    The ones who shout my name
    from another room
    while standing right next to the thing they need.

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    But also the same ones
    who look at me calm, unbothered
    and say,

    “Why are you thinking so much?
    Just play with us 🙂”

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    And suddenly…
    all my overthinking feels a little embarrassing.

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    I’m out here turning one small thought
    into a full series
    episodes, flashbacks, alternate endings…

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    And they?
    They don’t even watch trailers.

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    I lose something panic.
    They lose something
    “It’s okay, we’ll find it.”

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    I hold on to things.
    They move on from things.

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    I create scenarios.
    They create moments.

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    They fight like it’s the end of the world
    and then 5 minutes later,
    they’re sharing snacks like nothing happened.

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    Meanwhile, I’m still mentally replying
    to conversations that are already over.

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    And the funniest part?

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    They don’t even know
    they’re giving advice.

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    No big words.
    No deep quotes.

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    Just one line
    perfect timing
    and my entire overthinking collapses.

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    So yes,
    my advisors are tiny, loud,
    always hungry,
    and occasionally covered in chocolate.

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    Strange, isn’t it
    they still need help finding their shoes…
    but somehow,
    they’ve already found a way
    to live life better than me.
    💣😄✨

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    Two young boys sit by a window at dusk, with “The Ones I Go To” in bold text.
    They don’t know it… but they fix everything. 💛

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    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rights Reserved

  • Unfair Levels of Love♥️✨

    Unfair Levels of Love♥️✨

    Describe a positive thing a family member has done for you.

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    Some people talk about “acts of kindness” like they’re rare, once-in-a-while events.

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    In my case… it’s almost a daily subscription plan 😄

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    My family has this slightly annoying habit of loving me too much.

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    Like… they’ll adjust plans, change schedules, and quietly make space for me—without ever announcing it like some grand sacrifice.

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    They don’t say “we’re doing this for you.”

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    They just do it… and pretend it’s normal.

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    They make sure I don’t feel discomfort, even before I realize I might.

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    They stand by me like it’s the most natural thing in the world—no conditions, no drama, no scoreboard.

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    Honestly, it’s a little unfair.

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    Because how am I supposed to match this level of love? 😌

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    But if there’s one thing they’ve given me, it’s this quiet certainty

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    that no matter what happens outside,

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    there’s always a place where I’m held with more care than I probably deserve… and definitely more than I can ever explain.

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    And yes… I complain about them sometimes.🫣

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    But let’s be real😍

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    life without them would be way less dramatic… and way less beautiful 💛

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    A family of four sitting together by the seaside at sunset, sharing a warm and peaceful moment, with the title “Unfair Levels of Love – Nihshabd” above.
    Where love needs no words… just presence 💛

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    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rights Reserved