Tag: motherhood unfiltered

  • The Unofficial CEO of the House

    The Unofficial CEO of the House

    Jot down the first thing that comes to your mind.

    Jot down the first thing that comes to your mind…

    Me:
    “So this whole house would actually stop functioning… if I didn’t exist?”

    Interesting.

    Because somehow—
    everyone knows their work…

    they’ll do their things perfectly,
    no confusion, no questions…

    but the moment it’s something slightly outside that—

    everything just quietly…
    automatically my department 😌

    No one says it out loud.
    No one assigns it.

    It just… lands with me.

    No meetings.
    No instructions.
    No appreciation emails.

    Just silent expectations…
    and very loud—
    “Mummmaaaa…”

    And the confidence? Unreal.

    Things will be kept randomly,
    forgotten instantly,
    not even looked for properly

    and yet—

    final conclusion:
    “Mumma must know.”

    Of course.
    Because I clearly have a secret map of the house
    that even Google doesn’t 😅

    And the real fun?

    If everything is running smoothly—
    normal.

    Like that’s just how it should be.

    But the second something slightly goes off—

    suddenly…
    “Why didn’t you tell?”

    Ah yes.
    Because I’m not just managing the present…
    I’m apparently responsible for the future too 💁‍♀️

    Motherhood:
    where you’re not the main character…

    you’re the entire system running in the background.

    .

    A calm mom sipping coffee at a cluttered table while two boys create chaos behind her, with notes around calling her the “Unofficial CEO of the House.
    Running the house… silently, efficiently, endlessly 😌💛

    .

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rights Reserved

  • We Thought We Were Coping… How We Adapted Without Even Realizing It

    We Thought We Were Coping… How We Adapted Without Even Realizing It

    How have you adapted to the changes brought on by the Covid-19 pandemic?

    .

    Covid didn’t just test my patience…

    it quietly turned me into a full-time everything manager 😄

    .

    Suddenly, I wasn’t just “mom” anymore —

    I was a teacher (online classes 📚),

    an IT support system (“Mummaaa, the internet is gone again!”),

    a chef on 24×7 demand (“Can we eat something different today?”),

    and somehow… still expected to function like a normal human.

    .

    And the kids were little.

    So there was no shortcut, no “manage on your own”…

    it was hands-on, all day, every day.

    .

    Mornings began with logins and confusion,

    switching between apps, classes, and tiny voices calling my name.

    Afternoons melted into a loop of meals, snacks, and “just something different.”

    Evenings were half work, half chaos…

    and by night, I didn’t even know what day it was.

    .

    It wasn’t structured.

    It wasn’t perfect.

    It was… real.

    .

    And along with all this… there was also a quiet, constant fear.

    The fear of losing our loved ones.

    The pain of not being able to be there in someone’s hardest moments.

    The distance, the helplessness…

    a kind of ache that words can never fully explain.

    .

    There were moments of complete exhaustion —

    when everything felt like too much.

    Too many roles, too much noise,

    and not a single pause.

    .

    But somewhere in between all this…

    something beautiful started happening.

    .

    We stopped trying to do everything “right”…

    and started doing everything together.

    .

    Classes had background interruptions,

    the kitchen had experiments (and a few disasters 🤭),

    routine had no fixed shape…

    but the house slowly filled with something warmer than perfection —

    belonging.

    .

    We didn’t sit and say “let’s cope.”

    We just… showed up for each other.

    .

    Helped where we could,

    adjusted where we had to,

    laughed when things went wrong,

    and figured it out — one messy day at a time.

    .

    And slowly, without even realizing…

    this is how we adapted.

    .

    Not by controlling everything,

    but by holding on to each other.

    .

    And maybe that’s the real twist

    we thought we were just managing a difficult phase…

    .

    but actually,

    we were building a kind of togetherness

    that normal life never gives you time for.

    .

    Because coping isn’t about having everything under control.

    It’s about how you stand with your people when nothing is.

    .

    In my case, there was no perfect system,

    no perfect balance…

    just a lot of shared effort, small joys, and silent understanding.

    .

    And when I look back now…

    it doesn’t feel like just a hard time.

    .

    It feels like a phase where life was loud, messy, unpredictable…

    but also full of togetherness.

    .

    And somehow, in the middle of all that chaos…

    we didn’t just get through it

    .

    we grew through it,

    together 🙂

    .

    A young child mimicking work-from-home life, standing with a laptop and headphones during the Covid lockdown, reflecting how children observed and adapted to new routines at home.
    He wasn’t just playing… he was copying Papa learning work-from-home, his own way.

    —Rajeshwari 🧿💕

    © Nihshabd. All rights reserved.

    (This image and poem are original creations.)