Who are your favorite people to be around?
Who Are My Favourite People To Be Around?
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The Ones Who Don’t Need Me To Be Pleasant To Be Loved
My favourite people
are not impressed
by my efficiency.
They are not waiting
for me to be calmer,
nicer,
more adjusted,
less complicated,
more available,
less emotional.
They do not love
the version of me
that manages everything.
They love
the one
who occasionally forgets
why she walked into a room
and stands there
like a buffering video
in her own life.
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**The Ones Who Know
Silence Is Also A Language**
We don’t always talk.
Sometimes
we just sit together
doing different things
on different sides
of the same exhaustion.
No fixing.
No analysing.
No
“you should try yoga.”
Just presence.
A kind
that does not feel
like performance.
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The Ones Who Let Me Change
My favourite people
do not archive me
into versions:
“You were not like this before.”
“You used to be fun.”
“You’ve changed.”
Yes.
I have.
Grief changed me.
Motherhood changed me.
Healing changed me.
Pain changed me.
Learning how not to apologise
for existing
changed me.
They do not expect
consistency.
They allow evolution.
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**The Ones Who Understand
That Care Is Sometimes Untidy**
Care
is not always
remembering birthdays
and planning surprises.
Sometimes
it is:
• forwarding a job link
• asking if I ate
• not taking my bad day personally
• closing the kitchen cabinet I left open for the 9th time
Care
is maintenance.
Daily.
Uncelebrated.
Unposted.
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**How To Be Someone’s Favourite Person
(From A Woman Who Is Tired Of Explaining)**
• Listen
without preparing your defence.
• Don’t offer solutions when someone is offering vulnerability.
• Don’t compete with someone’s pain by narrating your own.
• Ask “Do you want comfort or clarity?”
• And most importantly:
Do not punish honesty by withdrawing warmth.
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What Stays
My favourite people
are not the ones
who make life easier.
They are the ones
who don’t leave
when it isn’t.
And somewhere
between staying
and understanding
love
quietly matures.