✦ A Few Lines Before We Begin ✦
.
Sometimes the heart confuses importance with affection,
and attention with devotion.
.
For when someone constantly reaches for us,
it is easy to believe we are loved.
.
Yet there is a subtle difference
one that many discover only after disappointment.
.
A person may need what you give.
But love begins when they cherish who you are.
.
✦ When Being Needed Feels Like Love ✦
.
Being needed can feel a lot like being loved.
.
At first.
Your phone lights up every day. They seek your advice, your comfort, your time, your endless supply of patience. You start to think,
“Wow, I must be special.”
Then one day, you stop being useful.
Suddenly, the messages arrive less often than your food delivery notifications.
Interesting.
.
✦ The Difference Reveals Itself ✦
.
A person who needs you usually remembers you when their world is falling apart.
.
A person who loves you remembers you when something wonderful happens too.
.
One says:
“I need your help.”
The other says:
“I saw this and thought of you.”
One treats you like customer support.
The other treats you like a favorite person.
.
✦ Umbrellas and Sunsets ✦
.
Being needed is being the umbrella someone grabs when it rains.
.
Being loved is being invited to watch the sunset when the sky is clear.
.
And no, before anyone panics, there is nothing wrong with being needed. We all need people.
.
But if every conversation starts with a problem and ends when the problem is solved, congratulations.
.
You’ve accidentally subscribed to a premium emotional support package.
No free trial.
No cancellation notice.
.
✦ Love Is Wonderfully Unnecessary ✦
.
Love, on the other hand, is delightfully impractical.
It checks on you when it wants nothing.
.
It remembers your favorite coffee order despite forgetting where the car keys are.
.
It sends you memes with absolutely no strategic objective.
It stays for the conversation, not just the solution.
.
✦ A Small Test ✦
.
The trick is simple:
.
Ask yourself,
“If I had nothing to offer today no advice, no help, no emotional rescue mission would they still want to spend time with me?”
.
The answer may sting.
Or it may remind you of the people who never needed a reason to stay.
And those people?
.
They’re the ones worth keeping.
Because being needed makes you useful.
Being loved makes you irreplaceable.
.
✦ Closing Verse ✦
.
Not every hand that reaches,
reaches for your heart.
.
Some seek shelter from a storm,
and leave when skies depart.
.
Yet those who stay in sunshine,
when there is nothing left to gain,
are the ones who teach us gently
the difference between love and need again.
.
✦ A Question For You ✦
.
Perhaps the real question is this:
.
If one day you had nothing left to offer no advice, no support, no solutions would they still value your presence, or was your worth tied only to your usefulness?
.
With love,
Rajeshwari ♡🧿💕
© Nihshabd by Rajeshwari. All Rights Reserved
