What does “having it all” mean to you? Is it attainable?
(Meanwhile my laundry basket is judging me from the corner.)
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People love asking, “What does having it all mean to you?”
And every time I hear it, I imagine a woman gracefully balancing a successful career, healthy relationships, glowing skin, inner peace, a gym routine, and a houseplant that’s somehow still alive.
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Meanwhile, I’m out here celebrating because I remembered my password without clicking “Forgot Password.”
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For the longest time, I thought “having it all” meant reaching a magical stage of life where everything finally feels sorted.
No confusion.
No chaos.
No emotional damage from opening the front camera accidentally.
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But adulthood is basically just:
- making to-do lists you immediately ignore,
- standing in the kitchen wondering why you came there,
- pretending not to hear the pressure cooker because you need “two minutes of peace,”
- and saying “I’ll sleep early tonight” like a daily affirmation instead of a lie.
At some point, I realized people who “have it all” probably also have:
17 unread emails,
a chair full of clothes,
and at least one ongoing existential crisis.
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Very relatable royalty.
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And honestly?
I don’t think “having it all” means owning every beautiful thing life can offer.
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I think it means having enough.
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Enough peace to sleep properly.
Enough laughter that your stomach hurts a little.
Enough people who feel like home.
Enough courage to start over when life gets messy.
Enough softness left in your heart after difficult days.
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Maybe that’s the real luxury now.
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Not perfection.
Not hustle culture.
Not looking productive every second.
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Just waking up and not feeling at war with your own life.
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And maybe “having it all” isn’t one giant moment waiting for us at the finish line.
Maybe it quietly hides in ordinary things:
warm tea,
safe conversations,
unexpected laughter,
slow evenings,
someone saying “text me when you reach home,”
and those rare nights when your mind finally decides to be kind to you.
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If that’s not having it all…
then honestly, I don’t know what is.
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—Rajeshwari 🧿💕
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